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E263: How a Man Leads in the Home
How does a man lead in his own home? I think it’s fair to say that most of us men start a family without any concept of what it means to lead in the home. It does not take long before a man’s lack of confidence as a leader begins to show up.
Leading outside of the home has challenges for sure, but the dynamics of leading in the home are different. It is easier to be an effective leader in the board room than it is in the living room.
Here are principles for how to effectively lead in the home.
- Realize that great leadership is servant leadership. Instead of seeing yourself as being the one with all of the answers, be the man who keeps your eyes on the needs of your family.
- Realize that servant leadership is not weak or passive. You serve your wife’s heart, but you do not cower to her insecurities.
Servant leadership is not weak leadership.
Servant leadership is not about being weak or gentle.
- It’s not about cowering to the insecurities of those you lead.
- It’s not about cowering to the fears of those you lead.
- It’s not about cowering to the selfishness of those you lead.
Don’t be offended at weaknesses you see in your wife and kids. You get to be like a football coach who sees things that can threaten our ability to win. This is a conflict. You want to just serve, but you have to help people see the adversity.
If you ignore the tension that you feel about…you will cause conflict to grow. You will cause distance between you and your spouse in how you believe. This causes you to grow apart.
Examples:
- spending too much on vacation and straining the budget.
- Kids sleeping in the bed too long into life.
- Lack of discipline, or too much discipline.
- Concerns over extended family.
If you don’t learn to share your thoughts….your wife will not know how to respond to you when you do share your thoughts. She may think you are disconnected, or just not interested. She will think she needs to take charge more. (Don’t put your wife in the position of trying to solve you. Share your heart.)
If you are interested in the course, The Confident Father, here is the link for that:
https://courses.markdelaney.com/the-confident-father
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How does a man lead in his own home? I think it’s fair to say that most of us men start a family without any concept of what it means to lead in the home. It does not take long before a man’s lack of confidence as a leader begins to show up.
Leading outside of the home has challenges for sure, but the dynamics of leading in the home are different. It is easier to be an effective leader in the board room than it is in the living room.
Here are principles for how to effectively lead in the home.
- Realize that great leadership is servant leadership. Instead of seeing yourself as being the one with all of the answers, be the man who keeps your eyes on the needs of your family.
- Realize that servant leadership is not weak or passive. You serve your wife’s heart, but you do not cower to her insecurities.
Servant leadership is not weak leadership.
Servant leadership is not about being weak or gentle.
- It’s not about cowering to the insecurities of those you lead.
- It’s not about cowering to the fears of those you lead.
- It’s not about cowering to the selfishness of those you lead.
Don’t be offended at weaknesses you see in your wife and kids. You get to be like a football coach who sees things that can threaten our ability to win. This is a conflict. You want to just serve, but you have to help people see the adversity.
If you ignore the tension that you feel about…you will cause conflict to grow. You will cause distance between you and your spouse in how you believe. This causes you to grow apart.
Examples:
- spending too much on vacation and straining the budget.
- Kids sleeping in the bed too long into life.
- Lack of discipline, or too much discipline.
- Concerns over extended family.
If you don’t learn to share your thoughts….your wife will not know how to respond to you when you do share your thoughts. She may think you are disconnected, or just not interested. She will think she needs to take charge more. (Don’t put your wife in the position of trying to solve you. Share your heart.)
If you are interested in the course, The Confident Father, here is the link for that:
https://courses.markdelaney.com/the-confident-father
Support the show