What's the actual difference between instinct and intuition - and can you tell them apart when something is actually at stake?Brianna Bowley is a performance coach who works with athletes, and she's been training Brazilian jiu jitsu long enough to start seeing it as a map for everything - fear, relaxation under pressure, how the body processes threat before the brain has caught up.What I love about the way Brianna thinks is that fear isn't the enemy - it's information. She opens the episode with a story from Perth: being followed at night, then arriving at an Airbnb to find a smashed window and blood in the sink. What stayed with me was what she shared about the aftermath. I also get personal about my own relationship to violence and what a psychedelic experience showed me about how much of it my nervous system had absorbed.In this conversation, we discuss the constant threat assessment women carry, why the most relaxed person in the room is the most powerful, the human need for conflict and what happens when it has no outlet, and how to start tracking the sensations of your own body so you can work with fear rather than against it - when it counts.00:00:00 - What's coming up00:01:24 - Being followed in Perth00:09:21 - Instinct vs intuition00:19:56 - Fear and martial arts00:25:47 - Being a woman in BJJ00:34:03 - Strategy vs muscle memory00:39:44 - Hypnotherapy and time00:43:26 - What fighter would you be01:02:19 - Humans and violence01:07:02 - Growing up around gangs01:10:15 - Being chased by a chainsaw01:16:09 - Consuming violence online01:29:08 - Tracking your patternsGet in touch with Brianna:https://www.brianabowley.comInstagram: @brianabowleyGet in touch with me:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@PaigeLeaceySpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4sVFkvFcj3DW1wuVZuGd4UApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/on-the-same-paige-with-paige-leacey/id1573526370Newsletter: https://paigeleacey.substack.comInstagram: @samepaige__TikTok: @samepaige__Three new episodes a month - subscribe for more!