Unlock the secret to unshakable confidence—even when you feel imperfect. In this episode of Building Success Habits, discover how embracing your quirks and digging deep into your learned patterns can help you thrive both personally and professionally.

We all cruise through parts of our day on autopilot, shaped by habits and beliefs we might not even remember forming. But what happens when those patterns quietly sabotage your goals?

If you’ve ever said you’d do something and skipped it or found yourself quitting before you started, this session is a must-listen.

What You Need to Know

An important part of building confidence is recognizing that much of your behavior is programmed. Simple things like how you tie your shoes or which hand you use to cut food were once things you had to learn—and struggle through.

Over time, you also learned to quit or take the easy path in certain situations, not because you were born that way, but because it became a learned model. Recognizing this conditioning is the first step in changing it.

Confidence flourishes when you identify these patterns and realize you can rewrite them.

What You Need to Do

Slow down—way, way down. Observe your everyday habits with fresh eyes. Notice the routines you follow without thought, then ask yourself when and how you learned them. Reflect on when you started defaulting to giving up or avoiding something hard, and, just as importantly, who supported or encouraged that behavior.

Use these moments to pause, reflect, and track back to the origin of your beliefs and habits.

Next time you catch yourself hesitating or quitting on something you said you’d do, be present enough to override that impulse—even if it’s just choosing to exercise when the gym is closed or picking up the phone to call a prospect.

Your Next Step

Take on the two-week experiment offered in this episode: Observe, question, and reflect on your autopilot habits and moments when you quit on yourself. Use the reflection prompts from the show notes to guide your journaling or quiet thinking.

Confidence isn’t about perfection—it’s about growing through self-awareness and trying new models that serve the thriving version of yourself.

00:00 Introduction

00:56 Join the Conversation

01:50 The Two-Week Experiment

02:28 Autopilot Observations

03:35 Reflecting on Learning Models

05:21 Overriding Old Beliefs

06:26 The Power of Reflection

07:44 Identifying and Changing Beliefs

11:02 Final Thoughts and Sign Off