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Early Fatherhood: The Support She Needed (And I Didn’t See)
There’s a pain I carry. Not from something I said. But from something I didn’t see. She was hurting. And I missed it.
Episode 60 is about her return to work and the moment I realised I hadn’t truly been standing beside her.
This was the moment when as her husband and their dad she needed me and I wasn't ready.
This week we talk:
Returning to work after baby
The emotional toll on mothers
Equality vs partnership
The pressure career mums face
Employer conflict and identity erosion
How men overlook silent struggle
Why support isn’t fixing, it’s absorbing
Repairing connection before it fractures
As a new dad this matters because:
Her return to work isn’t just logistical.
It’s emotional. It tests her identity. Her confidence. Her value. Her place in the world.
And if you don’t see it and if you don’t close the gap and support her then the distance between you will grow. Not because you don’t care but because you weren’t switched on.
And that distance can cost you everything you love.
As a father you owe it to your kids to support their mother during this important phase. She needs you in her corner. Mum needs you to have her back because nobody else will.
Your action this week:
Be switched on emotionally, not just practically
Don’t assume strength means she’s coping
Listen for what isn’t being said
Protect her confidence like you protect your income
Become a sounding board, not a problem solver
And Ask Her: Where did I miss the signs?
Understand: provision doesn’t replace partnership
Comment below: Was there a moment when she needed you more than she let on and you missed it?
Join the Modern Fatherhood Club. We prioritise impact and our resources and community have been designed to help you overcome challenges that stop you showing up for your kids. If this hit home, subscribe to the channel, join the community and grab any of our free resources
Join the Modern Fatherhood Club: www.themodernfatherhoodclub.com
Subscribe for Weekly Friday Fuel: @TheModernFatherhoodClub
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By The Modern Fatherhood ClubThere’s a pain I carry. Not from something I said. But from something I didn’t see. She was hurting. And I missed it.
Episode 60 is about her return to work and the moment I realised I hadn’t truly been standing beside her.
This was the moment when as her husband and their dad she needed me and I wasn't ready.
This week we talk:
Returning to work after baby
The emotional toll on mothers
Equality vs partnership
The pressure career mums face
Employer conflict and identity erosion
How men overlook silent struggle
Why support isn’t fixing, it’s absorbing
Repairing connection before it fractures
As a new dad this matters because:
Her return to work isn’t just logistical.
It’s emotional. It tests her identity. Her confidence. Her value. Her place in the world.
And if you don’t see it and if you don’t close the gap and support her then the distance between you will grow. Not because you don’t care but because you weren’t switched on.
And that distance can cost you everything you love.
As a father you owe it to your kids to support their mother during this important phase. She needs you in her corner. Mum needs you to have her back because nobody else will.
Your action this week:
Be switched on emotionally, not just practically
Don’t assume strength means she’s coping
Listen for what isn’t being said
Protect her confidence like you protect your income
Become a sounding board, not a problem solver
And Ask Her: Where did I miss the signs?
Understand: provision doesn’t replace partnership
Comment below: Was there a moment when she needed you more than she let on and you missed it?
Join the Modern Fatherhood Club. We prioritise impact and our resources and community have been designed to help you overcome challenges that stop you showing up for your kids. If this hit home, subscribe to the channel, join the community and grab any of our free resources
Join the Modern Fatherhood Club: www.themodernfatherhoodclub.com
Subscribe for Weekly Friday Fuel: @TheModernFatherhoodClub
Follow on Instagram for Daily Dad Insights! @the_the_modern_fatherhood_club