If there’s one thing I want my sons to learn from me.

It’s not how to work hard.

Not how to make money.

Not how to lead a team.

It’s how to love the people they care about. And they’re learning that… from the way I treat their mum.

This week we talk:

How children model love from their parents

The way tone, language and emotional regulation play a key role in their development

Why conflict must be repaired quickly to preserve respect

How masculinity is rooted in stability and not dominance

And that your partnership remains strong when you stand shoulder to shoulder with one another.

This matters because:

Your children are watching how you speak to her.

They’re watching your tone.

Your body language.

Your reaction under pressure.

And that becomes their blueprint for:

How to love How to argue

How to repair

How to treat their future partner

Remember, you’re not just raising children. You’re shaping the relationships they’ll build for the rest of their lives.

This week:

Audit your tone during disagreement

Repair quickly and visibly

Stand shoulder to shoulder, not face to face in battle

Make sure you don't undermine your partner in front of your children Let them see affection, not just function

De-escalate instead of dominate

And if you're brave enough ask: What did they hear in that moment?

Comment below: What do your kids hear when you speak to their mum?

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There’s a pain I carry. Not from something I said. But from something I didn’t see. She was hurting. And I missed it.

Episode 60 is about her return to work and the moment I realised I hadn’t truly been standing beside her.

This was the moment when as her husband and their dad she needed me and I wasn't ready.

This week we talk:

Returning to work after baby

The emotional toll on mothers

Equality vs partnership

The pressure career mums face

Employer conflict and identity erosion

How men overlook silent struggle

Why support isn’t fixing, it’s absorbing

Repairing connection before it fractures

As a new dad this matters because:

Her return to work isn’t just logistical.

It’s emotional. It tests her identity. Her confidence. Her value. Her place in the world.

And if you don’t see it and if you don’t close the gap and support her then the distance between you will grow. Not because you don’t care but because you weren’t switched on.

And that distance can cost you everything you love.

As a father you owe it to your kids to support their mother during this important phase. She needs you in her corner. Mum needs you to have her back because nobody else will.

Your action this week:

Be switched on emotionally, not just practically

Don’t assume strength means she’s coping

Listen for what isn’t being said

Protect her confidence like you protect your income

Become a sounding board, not a problem solver

And Ask Her: Where did I miss the signs?

Understand: provision doesn’t replace partnership

Comment below: Was there a moment when she needed you more than she let on and you missed it?

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To your kids, you’re ten feet tall and bulletproof. Strong. Steady. Always there. But that invisible ‘S’ on your chest the one they place there, it fades with time.

This episode isn’t about being a superhero. It’s about who they see as the years pass… and what they remember when the strength looks different.

This week we talk:

Fatherhood, ageing and legacy

What children remember vs what we obsess over

Strength as return, not perfection

Emotional leadership and repair

Presence over performance

Writing your fatherhood story intentionally

Defining masculinity beyond power and control

This matters because:

Your kids won’t remember every word you said.

They won’t remember every mistake you made.

They’ll remember:

Whether you kept coming back

Whether you repaired after distance

Whether they felt safe beside you

The ‘S’ doesn’t stand for superhero. It stands for showing up again and again. And one day, when they’re older, that’s the strength they’ll recognise.

This week:

Write what you want them to remember, privately, honestly

Define what the ‘S’ means to you

Notice where you pull away and practice the return

Repair out loud: Apologise, explain, reconnect

Choose presence over image

Ask: Who will they see tomorrow if nothing changes?

Comment below (or journal privately):

What does the ‘S’ stand for in your home and who will they see tomorrow

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What part of you did you abandon when you walked back through the office door?

Episode 34 is about the lie many dads believe in early fatherhood; that sacrificing yourself is the price of being a good provider. And the cost that belief quietly extracts from your family, your identity, and your presence.

This week we talk:

Early fatherhood and the collision of identity

“Provide mode” and the erosion of presence

Emotional distance created by good intentions

Burnout, overwhelm and conflicted masculinity

Why sacrifice without clarity becomes self-abandonment

The tension between work, worth and connection

Reclaiming presence without abandoning responsibility

And this matters because:

Most dads don’t walk away from their family, they slowly drift while trying to do the right thing. Providing financially can look like love. But when it costs presence, warmth and emotional safety, it quietly becomes the very thing that creates distance.

Your kids don’t need a version of you that’s exhausted, hollow and absent.

They need you. Clear, grounded, present and emotionally available.

And that starts with redefining what contribution really means.

This week:

Identify what you abandoned when you stepped back into work

Audit the distance - here has sacrifice created separation?

Redefine contribution - presence is not optional

Name your values clearly - let them guide decisions, not pressure Interrupt “provide mode” before it hardens into identity

Ask daily: What do they need from me today - really?

Comment below:

What part of you did you abandon when you walked out the door — and what would it look like to bring it back?

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She became a mum the moment our son arrived. I became a dad… piece by piece.

When her world changed overnight, did I change with it? Or did I fall back into the habits that worked before children? This episode is an honest reflection on early fatherhood, partnership, sacrifice, and the quiet drift that happens when the outside world pulls you away from the people who need you most.

This week we talk:

Early fatherhood and the shock of responsibility

The invisible weight carried by new mothers

Returning to work and the emotional disconnect it creates

Guilt, pressure, and living between two worlds

Why presence matters more than performance

Emotional maturity, empathy, and modern masculinity

Choosing to lean into fatherhood instead of escaping it

Partnership, support, growing together and not apart

This matters because:

She needs you to step up and not step back

Her world didn’t just change physically. It changed emotionally, mentally, hormonally, and permanently.

And when we don’t change with it, not out of malice, but habit then the distance between mum and dad grows.

Connection fades.

Resentment quietly builds.

Early fatherhood isn’t something you can outwork. You can only attune to it.

This episode is about recognising that shift and choosing to meet it with strength, empathy, and leadership.

This week:

Ask instead of assuming e.g. “How are you really?”

Protect her rest. It’s not a luxury; be alive to her survival

Notice emotional drift early and don’t wait for resentment

Adjust your priorities.

Yes, work matters, but not at the cost of connection

Lean in and don’t escape. Because early fatherhood needs presence, not performance

Build resilience, mental, emotional and physical. It's a long road and they need you ready for the next challenge.

Please remember: provision without presence still creates distance

Comment below: When her world changed, did you change with it… or fall back into old ways?

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Were you ready to be a dad?

Not prepared on paper but ready inside?

Because if we’re honest, most of us weren’t.

We hoped we’d figure it out. We told ourselves it would come naturally.

This episode is about the moment you realise fatherhood isn’t something you’re ready for but something you choose, every single day.

This week we talk:

The myth of “being ready” for fatherhood

What it really feels like in the early days

Guilt, uncertainty, distance, and learning to bond

How fatherhood reshapes identity, priorities, and perspective

Becoming the man your child needs and not the one you were

Growth through pressure, uncertainty and responsibility

Why choosing to grow matters more than feeling confident

And this matters because...

No one truly understands fatherhood until they’re holding their child for the first time.

That moment doesn’t just make you a dad, it reveals who you need to become.

Fatherhood exposes your doubts, your limits, your fears but it also invites you to rise.

You don’t become a father in a single moment.

You become one through choice, a choice to grow, to adapt, to lead, and to keep showing up even when you feel unsure.

And that choice shapes lives, futures, and legacies.

This week focus on:

Releasing the pressure of readiness — no one has it all figured out

Name what you felt early on — fear, excitement, distance, awe

Choose growth daily — fatherhood is forged over time

Talk honestly with your partner — connection grows through openness

Reflect weekly: Am I choosing to become who they need?

Seek support — soundboards matter more than silence

Comment below: Were you ready to be a dad or did you grow into it over time?

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If your kids had no memory of your job…

your income…

or what you built…

What would you want them to remember you for? Not what you did. Not what you bought. But how you made them feel.

This episode is a reflection on time, presence, and the kind of legacy that actually lasts — the one they carry in their hearts long after the noise fades.

This week we talk:

The difference between building a future and missing the present

How pressure, pace and ambition quietly create distance at home

Why legacy is built in how you show up and not what you provide

Tone, patience, calm and connection as leadership skills

The danger of “someday” thinking in fatherhood

How Christmas, stillness and play revealed what really matters

Redefining success, ambition and provision through a legacy lens

This matters because:

Your kids won’t remember your deadlines.

They won’t remember your income.

They won’t remember how busy you were.

They’ll remember: Your tone when you were tired

Whether you slowed down

Whether you listened

Whether they felt safe, seen and backed

Legacy isn’t what you leave behind when you’re gone.

It’s what they carry with them when life gets hard. And that legacy is being built every single day.

This week I want you to:

Audit your “how” — how you speak, respond, show affection and recover

Create space — time without agenda, phones or pressure

Control the tempo — slow the home down before the world speeds it up

Model calm under pressure — this is where legacy is forged Ask nightly questions (happy, sad, angry, grateful, change) to reconnect

Redefine ambition — ensure what you’re chasing isn’t costing connection

Answer Me This: If everything else disappeared, what would you want your kids to remember you for?

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What are you really teaching your kids about being a man? Not with your words but with your behaviour. Not with big speeches but with how you show up when it’s uncomfortable.

This episode isn’t just for boy dads. It’s for any parent shaping how their children understand strength, courage, boundaries, respect and leadership. Because the man you model doesn’t just influence who they become, it influences what they tolerate from others.

This week we talk:

The masculinity crisis and the mixed messages our kids are absorbing

Four dominant male archetypes shaping modern culture and fatherhood

Why silence, submission or ego all teach something (whether you intend it or not)

The difference between loud masculinity and grounded leadership

Teaching sons (and daughters) what a good man looks like

Courage, values, self-respect and standing your ground without becoming hardened

Why fatherhood is a responsibility to shape the world your kids grow up in

And this matters because:

Your children are forming their definition of manhood right now.

From how you speak.

From what you tolerate.

From what you challenge.

From what you stand up for and what you stay silent on.

If you don’t define masculinity in your home, the world will do it for you.

And the version it offers is loud, fragile, reactive, or passive.

This episode is a call to step forward.

Not as a perfect man, but as a present, intentional one.

This week I want you to:

Identify the archetype you lean toward and the one you need to grow into

Define your non-negotiable values as a man, partner and father

Model strength with control, not ego, silence or avoidance

Let your kids see you think, choose and stand

Ask yourself weekly: If my children became exactly like me today would I be proud?

Build mental and physical strength not for image, but for longevity and leadership

Comment below: What are you really teaching your kids about being a man — through the way you live?

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We all chase something. It could be success, goals, money, progress, improvement. But here’s the uncomfortable truth: If all your kids see is you chasing… they’ll think that’s what love looks like. They’ll think presence is earned. They’ll think rest is weakness. They’ll think busyness is the measure of a man.

This episode is a pause . A moment to breathe. A reminder of what they really need from us. A reminder of the need to slow down.

This week we talk:

The hidden cost of “constant chasing” on your kids and your connection

How stress, pressure and performance leak into the home

Why rest is a leadership skill and not a luxury

Teaching kids presence, joy, stillness and play

Screen time, distraction and the lost art of simply being there

Recovering from burnout and modelling healthier rhythms

Bringing your kids close instead of pushing them away by accident

This matters because:

Your kids will not remember how many hours you worked.

They’ll remember:

If you looked them in the eye

If you were on the floor wrestling

If you laughed

If you slowed down when they needed you

If you made space for them If all they see is you running, they’ll think rest is wrong.

If all they see is you stressed, they’ll believe pressure is normal.

If all they see is you distant, they’ll assume they caused it.

This is generational and it’s our job to rewrite it.

This week I want you to:

Create sacred time: connection blocks with no phones, no noise, just presence

Show them recovery: let them see you rest, breathe, reset and recharge

Play on purpose: wrestle, create chaos, get lost in their world

Model stillness: teach them calm by letting them witness you grounded

Weekly audit: What are you chasing? What’s it costing? What are you missing?

Turn one thing off: remove one distraction every day to open space for memory-making

Comment below:

What are you chasing right now and what’s it costing your connection at home?

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Ask 100 men what strength is… and most of them will lie. Not intentionally, but because they were taught a definition that never served them.

Strength isn’t silence. It’s not suppression. And it’s definitely not carrying everything alone until you break in private.

In Episode 28 of Answer Me This we talk about the new standard of strength for fathers in 2026. The one rooted in courage, emotional literacy, presence, and leadership.

This week we cover:

Why the old model of masculinity is failing us

How to redefine strength for your kids and future generations

Emotional literacy as a superpower for dads

Presence, alignment, courage and conscious leadership

Seeing the world as it is and becoming the man they need within it

Strength through vulnerability, reflection, ownership and recovery

Raising boys (or girls) with a healthy, grounded example of manhood

This matters because:

Our children are watching the world change at speed.

They’re surrounded by poor role models, warped values, and a version of “manhood” that’s loud, fragile and often fuelled by insecurity.

They don’t need more noise. They need a father with strength rooted in presence, self-awareness, courage and alignment. Because what they see in you becomes their definition of strength and possibly their definition of love, leadership and partnership.

This week I want you to:

Define your 2026 Strength Standard in 4–5 bullet points. Make them clear and visible daily Teach emotional literacy: Don't hide your feelings and explain why recovery is important

Model alignment: Set a tone driven by values, not pressure

Show resilience: If you fail, reflect, take a moment and then go again

Celebrate your partner openly: Stand shoulder to shoulder, model respect and masculine support Be strong enough to pause, rest, admit and adapt

Comment below: What definition of strength are you committed to modelling in 2026?

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