EarthXperiences

"Forgive yourself. It’s okay that you don’t remember everything. Trust the bits and pieces; they are puzzle pieces meant to guide you." Coach Tonya Slaton

This Earth Xperience explores the connection between memory, trauma, and intuition. Coach Tonya shares how self-awareness became the foundation for rebuilding trust in herself after years of emotional confusion and manipulation. Through her reflections, she explains how trauma can affect the brain and memory, causing people to repeat patterns they don’t fully remember. Her message reminds listeners that healing begins with awareness and that remembering every detail isn’t as important as trusting what your body and spirit already know.

Together we talk about what it means to listen to intuition after trauma, how to recognize when self-doubt is learned, and how awareness shifts the way we experience relationships. Tonya shares how gaslighting once made her question her own reality, and how learning to pause, reflect, and pay attention to small inner cues helped her rebuild confidence in her discernment. The conversation encourages compassion for the self and curiosity about what it means to be guided by an inner knowing that never leaves.

Each Earth Xperience has its own fingerprint, shaped by the story of the guest. The X represents anything you choose to explore, express, or expand. In this episode, the X is an Experience with Coach Tonya Slaton (@coachtonyaslaton), a Writer, Artist, Coach, and Intuitive Reader who advocates for authenticity and emotional honesty. Her work invites people to stop pretending they are okay and begin real healing through truth and self-awareness.

You can connect with her and explore her resources at linktr.ee/coachtonyaslaton or on Instagram at @coachtonyaslaton.

Questions to reflect on:
• What does self-awareness look like in your daily life?
• How can you tell when you’re operating from memory versus intuition?
• What happens when you trust yourself even without all the facts?
• How do you recognize when someone is gaslighting you?
• What does it mean to forgive yourself for not remembering everything?
• How can awareness protect you from repeating the past?
• When did you last notice your body telling you something your mind ignored?

"You can’t fix a habit in the future. You can only fix a habit in the present." — Deirdre (@Deaevtte7)

This Earth Xperience explores what it means to break cycles, question belief systems, and rediscover identity through awareness, discipline, and love. Deirdre, known online as @Deaevtte7, shares her story of surviving a house fire, growing up in an unstable environment, and transforming trauma into self-awareness. Her voice has reached millions across social platforms as she helps others see that healing begins by learning to think, breathe, and choose with intention.

Together we talk about what it means to unlearn fear-based teachings and bridge the space between science, spirit, and faith. Deirdre opens up about growing up in a Christian home, struggling with mental illness, and learning that prayer without self-alignment can keep you waiting instead of walking. She shares how discovering the connection between the mind, body, and spirit gave her a new way to experience God and to teach others that the divine is not distant, it is within.

The conversation moves through themes of resilience, forgiveness, and redefining spirituality without rejecting faith. It is a reflection on how one person’s decision to heal themselves can create a ripple of change in the lives of others.

Each Earth Xperience has its own fingerprint, shaped by the story of the guest. The X represents anything you choose to explore, express, or expand. In this episode, the X is an Experience with Deirdre (@Deaevtte7), a creator who teaches consciousness, self-renewal, and practical spirituality. You can connect with her and explore her resources through her Stan Store.

Questions to reflect on:
• What are you holding onto from your past that keeps you small?
• How do you know when faith is rooted in fear rather than love?
• What beliefs about God have shaped how you see yourself?
• When do you feel most connected to your spirit, and what practices support that?
• What does it mean to fix a habit in the present instead of the future?
• How can slowing down help you see what you might have missed while rushing?
• What type of community would allow you to heal and expand at the same time?

"You can’t heal yourself and hate yourself. You have to come to a place of compassion, understanding, honoring your humanity, and then we can utilize the tools." Vernique Esther

This Earth Xperience centers on love, faith, and healing when lived honestly. Vernique Esther, a licensed clinical social worker and relational trauma therapist, shares how her upbringing in a single-parent home shaped her understanding of connection. She believes we are born in community and that genuine love and shared responsibility are what sustain us.

Together we explore how independence can sometimes isolate us, how love requires presence and accountability, and how church culture has shifted from discipleship to performance. Vernique reflects on what it means to rebuild authentic faith communities through honesty and participation rather than waiting for leadership to change.

She also shares her approach as a therapist who bridges faith and mental health, helping clients move beyond shame and harmful theology. Her words remind us that healing begins with compassion, not correction, and that being human is not something to fix but to honor.

Each Earth Xperience has its own fingerprint, shaped by the story of the guest. The X represents anything you choose to explore, express, or expand. In this episode, the X is an Experience with Vernique Esther, a relational trauma therapist and licensed clinical social worker whose work centers on love, community, and emotional restoration.

You can learn more about Vernique’s work and resources at verniqueesther.com.

Questions to reflect on:
• What does it mean to advocate for love in a world that rewards independence?
• How has your understanding of love evolved as you’ve grown?
• When you reflect on your upbringing, what patterns have you chosen to change?
• How can faith communities make space for honesty without becoming performative?
• When you seek healing, do you respond to yourself with compassion or correction?
• Can love exist without sacrifice, and how do you know when sacrifice becomes self-abandonment?
• What does it mean for you to embody the idea of being the church?

In this conversation, Dani sits with Pamela Merritt, a therapist based in Georgia who describes herself as a daughter, friend, wife, auntie, and someone who is self-discovering. Together, they explore faith, resilience, and the courage to reconstruct belief with honesty and grace. They reflect on how community can feel like belonging and pressure at the same time, why some teachings become weaponized, and what healthy spirituality feels like in the body. Pamela shares why she still claims parts of Christianity for the sake of lineage, even as she releases harmful interpretations, and how her work around religious trauma grew from her own deconstruction journey.

The episode opens with a creative game that sets a reflective tone. Pamela picks a two-minute timer, the topic of religion, and an opposite-outcome response, then walks through how people justify harmful behavior online and what it would mean to choose another path. Her reflections keep returning to inner honesty, context, and the limits of forcing confessions from others who have not yet admitted truth to themselves.

From there, Pamela traces her Pentecostal-adjacent upbringing, the strict rulebooks, and the difference between church culture and the compassionate space her parents created at home. She shares how losing her mother at 18 pushed her to decide what she truly believed and how trying to live by rules exhausted her connection with God. That season led to deconstruction, new communities, and a confident faith that no longer tears people down. Her guideposts are relationship with God, room to ask questions, and a commitment to liberating rather than controlling others.

Pamela also offers practical markers for discernment: notice fear-based messages that trigger anxiety and “or else” thinking, pay attention to how scripture gets lifted out of context, ask who funds the platform or school behind a voice, use curiosity and community to navigate deconstruction, and above all, give yourself grace in the back-and-forth of leaving and returning while you learn to trust your own sense of safety with God.

Questions explored in this episode include:

• Why do so many of us feel torn between community and conscience when faith becomes rule-heavy?

• How do you honor family faith without inheriting harmful interpretations?

• What does healthy spirituality feel like in your body, and how do you recognize fear-based teaching?

• Who funds the voices shaping your beliefs, and why does that matter?

• How can grace become a daily practice while you reconstruct trust in God and yourself?

About the Creator
Pamela Merritt
Website: therapist.com/clinician/pamela-merritt
Instagram: @TFCATL
Podcast: Holy Smokes Podcast
Affiliation: The Faith Community, Atlanta

What does it mean to wake up inside your own life and realize the voice in your head might not be yours? In this Earth Xperiences episode, Dani sits down with Amber, also known as @cultlifeescaped, to explore the layered and often invisible impact of growing up in a high-control religious group.

Amber shares what it felt like to live inside a structure that used fear, isolation, and conditional love as tools for obedience. Together, they discuss how belief systems can become systems of surveillance, where language is policed, thoughts are suppressed, and silence is a requirement.

This conversation is not just about leaving religion. It is about recovering personal agency, noticing how programming shows up in daily life, and trying to rebuild self-trust after a lifetime of being taught to surrender it.

They explore questions like
Is questioning always framed as rebellion in groups that fear doubt?
Why do some belief systems claim love but punish autonomy?
What happens when the consequences of thinking for yourself include losing family, friends, and your spiritual identity?
How does it feel to be free physically but still trapped mentally?
Can you be spiritual without subscribing to religious obedience?

This episode holds space for those who were raised to believe that compliance was holiness and disconnection was discipline. Dani and Amber reflect on the unspoken grief of choosing clarity over comfort and how hard it is to explain spiritual abuse when the outside world only sees “faith.”

Questions explored in this episode include
How do you unlearn control when it was labeled love?
Why is spiritual trauma so hard to name?
What does spiritual freedom look like without fear of punishment?
Can you honor your family and still reject their beliefs?
Is God still with you when the group says you are lost?

Whether you are just beginning to ask questions or have been rebuilding your life for years, this conversation is for anyone who was taught to distrust their own mind in the name of faith.

About the Creator
Amber
Instagram: @cultlifeescaped
TikTok: @cultlifeescaped

In this thoughtful Earth Xperience episode, Dani sits down with Tara Clark, creator of Modern Mom Probs, to explore how childhood, religion, motherhood, and identity all shape the way we show up in life. From infertility and the longing for one healthy child to the reality of raising that child without a village, Tara reflects on the choices that shaped her path and the belief systems she kept, questioned, or let go.

They talk about the weight of people pleasing, why modern motherhood feels so isolating, and the quiet pressure to become a brand online. Together, they unpack moments that feel both personal and universal: learning to trust yourself, feeling alone while doing everything “right,” and the blurry line between faith and fear.

Questions explored in this episode include:
• What does it mean to believe in God but not follow religion?
• How do you raise a child without forcing your past beliefs on them?
• Why is it so hard to ask for help as a mother?
• What do we share online and what do we protect?
• Can you break cycles without breaking yourself?

Whether you are a parent, a content creator, or someone navigating the tension between tradition and personal growth, this conversation makes space for nuance, honesty, and quiet courage.

About the Guest
Tara Clark
Founder of Modern Mom Probs
Author of Modern Mom Probs: A Survival Guide for 21st Century Mothers
Find her on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube @modernmomprobs

In this heartfelt conversation, Dorcas Adu Adjei (@_miss_wisdom) shares her powerful journey from feeling defeated by her body to transforming her life through a single prayer. After trying and failing multiple times to lose weight, she cried out to God and that moment sparked a turning point. A stranger introduced her to intermittent fasting and walking, and something in her shifted. She attributes the strength and consistency she gained to divine intervention.

This episode explores big questions:
Why do some prayers feel answered while others don’t?
Can faith really fuel physical transformation?
What happens when you’re honest with God instead of performative?
Is it possible to create your own body, mind, and life through belief?

Dorcas opens up about childhood comments on her weight, the decision to become an actress, and the spiritual encounters that shaped her identity. She also reflects on church culture, guilt-driven religion, and how shifting into relationship-based faith changed everything.

Together, we examine how the internet responds to vulnerability, how negative comments often dominate, and what it means when God tells you, “Take the praise, I’m cheering you on.”

Whether you’re navigating your own body journey, questioning your faith, or wondering what it really means to have a relationship with Jesus, this episode invites you to rethink creativity, self-image, and the power of prayer.

✦ About the Creator
Dorcas Adu Adjei
Instagram: @_miss_wisdom
TikTok: @misss_wisdom
YouTube: youtube.com/@misswisdom38
Email: [email protected]

Can you leave the church and still be spiritual? In this intimate conversation, host Dani sits down with Zen Oasis (@purposefullyzenny), a healer, writer, and mother, to explore belief systems, reparenting, and the many ways we return to ourselves.

Zen shares her transition from traditional Baptist roots to spiritual healing through plant medicine, and what happened the moment she felt pulled to leave the church. Together, Dani and Zen reflect on how inherited beliefs, childhood disappointments, and emotional repression impact the way we form truth and identity.

This conversation unpacks what it means to listen to the gut, how lineage and trauma shape our inner world, and how we re-learn joy. Zen opens up about being a pole instructor, her first time taking MDMA for healing, and why it took two years of ayahuasca ceremonies before she could even feel grounded enough to face her lineage wounds.

They also explore honest friendship, the exhaustion of performance, and how women can build community through vulnerability, not expectation.

Questions explored in this episode include:
— What does it mean to “hear from God” or receive spiritual guidance?
— How do unspoken childhood experiences shape our adult reactions?
— Can healing from trauma happen without a formal therapist?
— What does reparenting really look like in everyday relationships?
— Is envy in friendships always a bad thing, or can it reveal something deeper?
— What does it mean to release ego in order to receive truth?

Whether you’re rethinking your spiritual roots, exploring healing outside of religion, or reflecting on your role as a parent or friend, this episode is a space for compassion, curiosity, and clarity.

✦ About the Creator:
Zen Oasis
Instagram: @purposefullyzenny
TikTok & YouTube: @purposefullyzenny
Website: zenoasis.net
Book: What Was Planted Here Before I Arrived: A Journey of Reimagining Your Patterns

In this layered conversation, host Dani sits down with Kellie Snider (@kelliesnider.art), a behavior analyst turned artist and author, to explore how upbringing, faith, and comfort can shape what we believe to be true.

Kellie opens up about her childhood in a fundamentalist Christian household, her journey through grief, Buddhism, and atheism, and the deep questions that sparked her decision to start speaking publicly about racism, power, and silence. Together, they unpack how white people are often trained not to ask questions, the psychology of obedience, and how systems preserve themselves by keeping communities divided.

They also reflect on how the church has been used historically as a vehicle for maintaining white supremacy, and whether it’s possible to separate individual believers from the institutions they inherited. With candid exchanges, personal stories, and honest questions, this episode invites listeners to sit with discomfort, explore personal accountability, and examine whether morality must be tied to religion.

Questions explored in this episode include:
What does it mean to purge yourself of false beliefs?
Why do so many people trust authority figures without question?
Is there really a meeting behind all this systemic design?
What role did religion play in shaping America's racial history?
Can people who were groomed by systems still choose something new?

This is a conversation about facing the uncomfortable, not with shame, but with the will to learn, to look honestly at the mirror, and to choose what kind of person you want to be moving forward.

✦ About the Creator:
Kellie Snider
Website: kelliesnider.com
Instagram: @kelliesnider.art
TikTok: @kelliesnider.art

Can we truly experience love if we’ve never confronted our loops? In this episode, Dani sits down with Justin Scott (@cypher.j on TikTok, @this.cypher on Instagram), a wordsmith and cultural thinker who helps decode trauma, nervous system regulation, masculinity, and the emotional architecture of dating. Together, they explore whether love requires evidence, whether peace is mistaken for healing, and why silence is sometimes the loudest part of a relationship.

The conversation takes a nuanced look at how trauma patterns create loops that shape how we love, communicate, and cope. Justin offers a powerful framework for re-parenting through relationships, explaining why dating isn’t about avoiding grief but building co-regulation through emotional stamina, discernment, and shared tools.

Questions explored in this episode include:
What does a trauma-informed relationship look like?
How can you tell the difference between peace and suppression?
Why do some people crave “proof” of love while others just want to be held?
Can you build something real without first naming your emotional loops?
What’s the difference between dating for depth and dating for access?

This dialogue is not just about love and relationships, but about the systems—both internal and societal—that keep us stuck. Whether you’re rethinking faith, romance, community, or emotional health, this conversation offers a map and a mirror.

✦ About the Creator:
Justin Scott
Website: cypherj.substack.com
Instagram: @this.cypher
TikTok: @cypher.j