Daniel Boyd
HARMONY AND JOY
Philippians 4:2-5a
A theme that Paul has carried since chapter 1 is standing firm (or standing strong).
As a general rule we are enamored with people, who are able to stand strong like that. Persons that are unwavered by the opinions of others, unmoved by the circumstances that frighten others and boldly charge ahead, whether that be in business, in politics, in family relationships, or middle of the jungle adventures.
A case study on disagreement
The unavoidable problem with standing firm is that sinful tends to get entrenched over things that aren’t a matter of separation. That’s what brings about the passage we are going to study this morning. Paul introduces us to yet another set of people that we do not know, but can learn a great deal from.
The Situation
Euodia and Syntyche aren’t getting along and their situation has reached the ears of Paul. I imagine Paul learned about their situation from Epaphroditus and not that their quarrel had become well-known throughout the Roman empire… that would be a bit embarrassing. We can surmise from these four verses that this isn’t too different a situation from what we still face today in our Churches.
Two prominent women 2a
The fact that these two women are mentioned by name indicates that they were well-known persons in the Church. In Acts 16:11-23 we read about Paul’s first missionary journey to Philippi and learn that he could not go to a synagogue first (as was his custom), since there were not enough Jewish men. Paul ends up at the river outside city limits and finds Jewish “women” that were gathered together on the Sabbath. Lydia is also introduced to us in Philippi.
In Philippians 4:3 Paul remembers that these women had labored together with Paul in the gospel.
Two strong opinions 2b
The matter of disagreement must not have been theological, for Paul would have laid that discord to rest by explaining which one of the two women was right. So this is a personality or preference conflict.
Two serious dangers 2b, 5a
Prominent figures have a following among people, so this conflict, though not theological, could result in people picking sides and factions arising in the Church. This is contrary to Christ’s design for the Church and the teaching that Paul has been laying out since chapter 1.
Secondly, verse five draws our (and their) attention to the reputation of the Church: let your reasonableness be known to everyone. We tend not to think of how fightings and disputes in the Church can look to the unbeliever on the outside looking in.
The Approach
Paul adopts a very direct and simple approach and we can learn from his example in dealing with conflict in the Church.
He faces the situation head-on 2a
He is clear about the problem and solution 2b, 3b
He engages the Church 3a
Paul names their names and does it in a public fashion (their disagreement has been public, why not their correction?). The goal is clear-cut: agree in the Lord. Paul calls upon someone specific to help these women get to where they need to be.
There is a question about the words “true yokefellow”in verse 2. Many translations for the word suzegos have been suggested, but since Paul has been to clear in naming all parties involved and goes on to mention Clement in just a moment, it seems perhaps best NOT to translate this word, but instead the capitalize the first letter and make it someone’s name. Paul called upon Suzegos to help these women.
When Paul adds the adjective “true” to this man’s name, he is entreating him to be true to his name… Suzegos means to “bring under one yoke” and so Paul is asking him to be a real Suzegos and to help these women to get into the same yoke together and be of one mind.
Confrontation
The Bible is very clear about confrontation in the Church and I would like to finish our study of God’s Word this morning by thinking about four Biblical principles in regards to confrontation. We tend to shy away from it, because we’ve seen it go awry too often, but confrontation is intended to be a loving process whereby fellow believers help each other to walk worthy of our calling in Christ.
The Principle of Confrontation
The principle is found in many places in Scripture, but perhaps clearest in Galatians 6:1 and Hebrews 10:24-25. We are told to consider one another, to look into the lives of fellow brothers and sisters and if necessary to say something. Sometime we can be blind to our own faults and we need faithful brothers and sisters in Christ to point out our blind spot.
The Steps of Confrontation
No passage is as clear as Matthew 18. Jesus Himself addresses this issue and instructs us to always confront one-on-one. If he doesn’t listen, you broaden to net and go with another brother or two, so that by the testimony of two or three he can be convinced. If he doesn’t listen, you broaden the net again and make it known to the Church. Why? So that all of the members may have opportunity to lovingly confront this person, so that by the testimony of the entire Church that person may see his folly. If he chooses not to listen to the Church, he has removed himself from the Church’s influence and authority and the Church responds in kind.
The Goal of Confrontation
The goal is always restoration: to save that person from their sin. Or as Christ puts it: to win that person. This process has become belabored because it has been labeled “Church discipline”, but it need to be difficult and heavy… it is simply intended to help in love.
The Sadness of Confrontation
If a person refuses to listen, Paul instructs us (as does Jesus and James) to let that person go, to treat them as not a part of the Church. Their going will result in their own condemnation (perhaps not eternal, but evidencing their own sin). They would not listen.
I want to conclude this sermon by pointing out one last thing about this passage and that is the ever-present sphere of living: in the Lord! Paul command us to stand firm in the Lord, to be of one mind in the Lord, and to rejoice in the Lord. How are we to walk? As followers of the cross… or constantly in the Lord.
Harmony and joy are possible when the Lord is our focus.