I'm a mother of two wonderful boys. That may not be the case for you, but you may be a female FIGURE in a young man/men life.

I've been thinking a lot about this not just, because my boys are getting older, but just looking at the way things play on with the men, and young men today. I understand that this isn't displayed around every male on earth. According to how that young man has been raised up it depends on that. I wonder if they have gained the skills to survive out here on their own. Now everyone isn't around people that will guide them down the right path, but there is a lot of information that you can gain from the internet.

I just don't want my boys to rely on a female for a place to stay, of course I am here for them, but at a point and time they have to stand on their own two feet. I haven't seen a lot of

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As a woman who has kids by someone, you can call me a BM (baby momma) , but I am not that. My ex-husband, and I were married at a point and time. Now with that being said we are no longer together, and I understand that.

Understanding that he can move on and have a family with someone else. That man can also marry someone else if he chooses to, and that's fine, but don't think that I will feel some type of way about your new woman.

Women we should never think that just because we have that man kids that we control him. That man is grown and no matter how we feel we shouldn't try and keep them away or us the child as a pawn. I am dealing with the fact that he chooses not to be apart of his children's life, but picking to be apart of his other child life. As a mother is hurts, but I will never take away his right to come see them, pick them up, spend time with them, or even talk to them. Our children are older so they understand and know how to express themselves.

I am new to this, but I understand and always felt like this. I can't control him and I will not do that, all I can do is pray that he get the understanding that his children need him just like they need me.

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I have heard this being said so much these days, about women don't let a man lead them. That right there sounds crazy.

I thought that a leader is a leader at heart. NO one should have to allow you to do something that's within you, or that you learned how to become. I always hear as a woman that I act to masculine.

I am always hearing that I act like a dude. I wonder why that is. View this you are a woman that has a man in their life, but you have to ask 20x's for that man to do something like take the trash out everyday. View this that man tells you they do this, that, this, but when it comes time. When the moment comes for that man to do and keep his word it doesn't happen at all.

My experience in life is I had to be the one to pay for things, and handle things that a man would normally do for his woman. Yes, taking accountability I didn't have to make that choice, but I did. I also tried to work these little issues out. Understand that no woman wants to be masculine, it a position we are placed in because we dating/married to someone man that won't step up and do what he should do. That sweet spot in our hearts make us not want to give up, so stepping in that masculine role is something that we do, because we have to NOT want to.

If that woman is still with you step up, and do what you have to do. It's only so much that she can deal with before she has to walk away, because if she is going to do it she can just do it alone.

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I thought this would be a great topic for Ep.1. I have written out different topic to speak on for Ep.1, but this is a great starter for S2.  

   So why do we have pet peeves like WHY?  Is that a thing. I believe our pet peeve are there to bring awareness to the things that we do, but it makes us upset when someone else does it.   

  As always I will tale about me I don't know about anyone else and I am going to be honest with myself,   the THREE things I will speak on will be;

  1. Practice what you preach. (Strong pet peeve of mine) 

  2. When people say "yall women" and they are really talking about you, but not being direct. 

  3. A liar  (this one is more stronger then the First ONE)

     I will go into more details about these in the podcast cause its a passion topic for me. Also I want to get you all thinking of some of the things that we do and get upset about when someone else does it. 

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Welcome to Season 2    Yayyyyy!!!!!!!!!!

     I am so happy to be back for SEASON 2,     Hitting 2020 off with  the podcast was great, and was a crazy experience at the same time, I say  that, because my family personally dealt with COVID.   I am just so grateful that we made it through that rough patch ending 2020 coming into 2021. 

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I am an overthinker so I tend to think about things over and over again.    Alot of times I can talk myself into a good situation, or a bad situation.     WHY do I say that?           I am a feeling type of person, so I tend to let my feelings be the base of why I make choices, or don't make choices.    What tends to get LOST in my mind is that feelings are emotions that can change in mintues, seconds, months, or even years. The main thing is that feelings will change.  That's not the ONLY thing that get LOST in mind.   The person you are gets LOST often, because of the world we live in, and not takingk time to know WHO (we, meaning SELF really is).    By not knowing who we are we will start to restent people and self, because we aren't being the person we truly are.   When we LOST self we also can't find self value/self worth.   The key points I want you all to take away from this podcast is  1. Self worth/self value. You are more then what they say 2. Who you are is good enough. God created you that way 3. Feeling are ment to be felt, understood, and release. Everyday there is something that will make us feel and emotion, but we can't stay there wer have to keep pushing for better.  Follow Me 

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   Alot of people are always talkikg about causal sex.   Men and Women really casual sex?   

 Having sex without catching feelings can be done, but you have to understand and really agree with the verbal terms between you and the person that you are trying to have casual sex with. 

     Note: I am not speaking for everyone.  I am speaking for those of us who do have a heart, and want to share those moments with someone special.  At same time do understand that if he/she do go down that road that it is just sex and nothing more then that.    Understanding can get you through alot of things in life even those choices that you make that shouldn't have been made but was made.

     Men I can agree that you all have a better chance of not catching feelings, because you don't over think things and your drive to doing things are different then a woman.  Women we tend to do things and hear a man say that they don't want anything more, but that's not what most women hear.  They tend to hear something else, or think that they can change the way that a man feelings about her, some way some how.    Ladies we don't have that ability to make anyone do or say anything that they don't want or feel like they should do.  Guess what you have that ability too Ladies to control you thoughts and mine also.< NO MATTER WHAT>

Let's get into the KEY POINTS of the podcast;

  1. Why? isn't there an understanding to the verbal agreement that was made between you, and the person linking.   Women understand that he said what he said and you should think anything more.   Men stop thinking that your suppose to get a lot out of casual sex.  Sometimes men will try to get you hooked on something that isn't yours ladies. Why? fall for that. If you are out here having sex you should be able to handle it good/bad it is what it is. (I will go more depth in the podcast)

2. Ladies you can smell BS so why do you keep falling for the same BS.  You are going to get the sweet butter up conversations, and the beautiful lies in their sex man voice.  Can't you smell BS, they don't even know you. Do you really want to hear someone keep telling you that you are beautiful every time they text you. Is texting all that you want to do, are the conversations yall having even what you want to talk about.  Apply pressure ladies, and men you can do the same thing.  Men are starting to tell the truth somewhat so Ladies listen okay. He's letting you know.   Men she will do the same too so listen.

3. If you want something more then the link missions, make a sacrifice to not entertain people who don't want the same things that you want. (I will go into more details in the podcast)

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WHY? Do women need to do better.    (Not All Women)

    There are issues and problems that occur each, and everyday.   Women it's within our families. Now I know that it isn't just women with issues, but I want to address us woman, because I am a woman and I can speak on somethings that I think should be address.   Woman we like to hold on to things that we were tough from our mom, grandma, auntie, etc......

    Why is that?    Most of us have learn to do what we saw with our grandparents, mom, aunties, cousins, etc....... What they have been going through for years with the people that they let coem in and out of their lives, and the men that have mistreated them for years.  That's what most of us have watch and have taken to be apart of our life. 

   This isn't speaking for every woman in the world, but this is speaking up for the women that have a hard time loving them seleves.  For the women that will accept a lot of wrong doing,  that down plays their confidence, emotions, and mindset.     For the women that settle for anything just, because they don't know how to handle being alone.     All that's being said I am not excluded myself out of this conversation.    There are a lot of issues that I deal with myself, and I don't have answers to alot of issues that I come across, but I have understanding of the issues that I face.   I also don't make excuses of allow myself a pass to do things just because I wasn't introduce to doing things a different way.   I learn and I grow and I also realize I don't have to do things on other people 's timing I can take my time and learn at my speed.   That way the information that's given or recieved has a chance at becoming a habit that changes me for the better.    Take into mind that we are also remodels even if we don't want to be. There is always someone that will be inspired by the good or the bad that we do in this world.    How we allow people to treat us, the way we go around here and handle issue that we are faced with.  You also know its hard to encouge someone to do something if we aren't leading by example.

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As humans sometimes we tend to look at things from one view point. I am here 

to say that life takes us all through different trial and stages, so we can't always 

run with what we hear people say or what people said a long time ago. As you can tell

google has a different meaning for one word if you don't belive it ask GOOGLE. 

  Yes, we all may have similar stories, but how we went through the may be different. 

Abandonment doesn't just stand for other people, places, or things that also goes for

ourselves also.  We (meaning the one that always put others before ourselves) need to 

really think about the ways we abandon ourselves. So stop putting your self on the back 

burner. Take care of "The MAIN" person which is "YOU"!!!!!  

I was asked a question this question 

"How do you take care of yourself"?

comment down below and let me know how you take care of you?

   Healing---- Take time to break down the things that hurt you. My opinion is to heal alone, but 

if you don't know how that looks like. Get a person that you can talk to and share deeply 

about what you are saying. That will be real with you. Or write it down or talk to the memo

in your phone. You have to hear it, because you have to know what it is that you have been

holding on to for so long. 

   Understanding ------  With healing there has to be some understanding on what you have done, or 

why what has happened to you cause you need to heal. How did it make you feel what were your 

emotions.  

Understand go deep and get clear on it. 

   Release & Move Forward -------   This step is just letting go the issues that you have now healed 

from. Release and move on to your new beginning. You can't grow from holding on to things 

that now longer serve you. It must be release in order for you to get to that 

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