Expectations shape everything, from how we see the day ahead to how we lead and build trust. We all carry expectations into our work, our relationships, and our daily routines, but too often they’re unspoken, unrealistic, or undefined. When that happens, conflict thrives and trust erodes. This episode explores why clear expectations are essential for healthy school culture and meaningful relationships, and why practicing presence is the key to making them real.
In this episode of Educators Among Us, Scott Barron reflects on expectations, conflict, trust, and presence in school life. He encourages listeners to consider the expectations they set for themselves, their teams, and their students, reminding us of the responsibility and privilege of shaping culture with clarity and authenticity.
Scott explains how unexpressed expectations lead to distrust and conflict, while also warning that schools are naturally full of conflict that must be addressed, not avoided. His message emphasizes resolving issues through trust, clarity, and the discipline of being fully present.
Educators Among Us is your invitation to think more deeply about the work of teaching and leading, to find practical wisdom you can use right away, and to connect with others who share your passion for shaping lives. Listen in to grow as an educator and strengthen the culture around you.
Takeaways
-Unspoken, unrealistic, and undefined expectations are habits of distrust that undermine school culture.
-Trust is essential in education, and low trust contaminates culture, curriculum, and capabilities. -Schools are “conflict factories” because they bring together people with diverse needs and perspectives.
-Avoiding conflict is not the same as resolving conflict; clarity in expectations is crucial. -Dwelling on the past or obsessing about the future distracts us from being effective in the present.
-Being fully present—mind, body, and spirit—is one of the most powerful gifts educators can give.
-Clear expectations don’t guarantee success, but they provide essential direction and reduce confusion.
-“Lower your expectations of Earth. This isn’t heaven,” reminds us to expect challenges and show grace.
-A Coaching Question: “Did I do my best to be present with expectations today?”
Chapters
00:43Introduction
02:59 Expectations for Today
04:45 Expectations Mattetr
06:59 Calibrating our Expectations
08:43 The Discipline of Presence
09:48 Owning our Failure
12:14 Conscious Clarity
14:37 A Coaching Question
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