Ela's Got the Tea

An advice column with tea.

Every week I open three real letters from the internet's messiest corners and look past the surface drama at what's actually going on underneath.

Grab your favorite cup. Let me pour.

In this episode:

• Two Separate Worlds — seven months in and still a stranger to everyone he knows
• Two Years of Keeping to Ourselves — am I the Karen for finally reporting them?
• Clap For Me — a parent gets their kid off YouTube and asks for applause

Content note: Letter 2 involves two years of sustained harassment, and OP being mocked by adults while crying during a depressive episode. Times are below if you'd rather skip it.

Chapters: 00:00 Intro 01:19 Two Separate Worlds (r/AmIOverthinking) 13:35 Two Years of Keeping to Ourselves (r/AmITheKaren) 26:37 Clap For Me (r/Parenting) 39:44 The Last Pour

The letters are on screen in the video version, if you'd rather read along: [YouTube link]

Tea of the month: ENZO Crimson Harvest, a black tea with black currant, apple and hibiscus — https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9TLGZCY

This month's charity: Spirit of Children funds Child Life programs in children's hospitals, the specialists who help kids cope with being there, and every October they throw Halloween parties on the wards — https://www.spirithalloween.com/content.jsp?pageName=soc

The letters come from public Reddit discussions. I never share usernames and I never contact anyone featured. Subreddits and post titles are said out loud if you'd like to find the originals.

New episodes every Monday.

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An advice column with tea. ☕✨ Every week, we unpack real stories from the internet's messiest corners—looking past surface drama to understand what's actually going on underneath.

Grab your favorite cup. Let me pour.

📖 In this episode:

• The Desk
• The One Who Rocked the Boat
• Not Now, Walter

⚠️ Content Note: Letter 2 involves a mental health crisis, psychiatric hospitalization, and substance use. Timestamps are provided below if you prefer to skip.

⏱️ Chapters & Letters: 00:00 — Intro 00:19 — This month's tea and charity 03:27 — The Desk (r/amiwrong) 08:28 — The One Who Rocked the Boat (r/Amitheassholeadvice) 18:54 — Not Now, Walter (r/amiwrong) 27:52 — The Last Pour

🍵 Tea of the Month: ENZO Crimson Harvest (black tea with black currant, apple and hibiscus) — https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9TLGZCY

💛 This Month's Charity: Spirit of Children funds Child Life programs in children's hospitals, the specialists who help kids cope with being there, and every October they throw Halloween parties on the wards: https://www.spirithalloween.com/content.jsp?pageName=soc

☎️ Mentioned in Letter 2: SAMHSA National Helpline — 1-800-662-HELP (4357). Free, confidential, 24/7, and it's for family members too, not only the person using.

📺 Watch More from Ela's Got the Tea:

• Watch Episode 1: The Funeral, The Coach Call & The Widower
• Watch Episode 2: The Suitcase, The Birthday & The Rainbow Bookshelf
• Watch Episode 3: Potty Training, The Grandmother's House & The Shiny Ponyta
• Watch Episode 4: The Fire Lane, Three Years Over a Vape & The Riverside
• Channel Trailer: An Advice Column With Tea

📌 About the Letters: Sourced from public Reddit discussions. I never share usernames or contact anyone featured. Subreddits and post titles are on screen if you'd like to read the originals.

🗓️ New episodes drop every Monday! If this felt like a comforting place to land, please like, subscribe, and share your perspective in the comments.

#ElasGotTheTea #RedditStories #AdviceColumn #Storytime #AmIWrong

An advice column with tea. ☕✨
Every week, we unpack real stories from the internet's messiest corner, looking past surface drama to understand what's actually going on underneath.

Grab your favorite cup. Let me pour.

📖 In this episode:

• The Fire Lane
• Three Years Over a Vape
• The Riverside

⚠️ Content Note: Story 2 involves sustained harassment and stalking. Timestamps are provided below if you prefer to skip.

⏱️ Chapters & Stories:
00:00 — Intro
01:07 — The Fire Lane (r/EntitledPeople)
12:51 — Three Years Over a Vape (r/EntitledPeople)
24:15 — The Riverside (r/entitledparents)
31:02 — The Last Pour

🍵 Tea of the Month:
Tea Forté Vanilla Pear (a delicate, low-caffeine white tea): https://teaforte.com

💛 This Month's Charity:
AdoptAClassroom.org — Teachers spend hundreds out of pocket each year. Search a school by name and see exactly what that teacher is asking for: https://www.adoptaclassroom.org

🗓️ New episodes drop every Monday!
If this felt like a comforting place to land, please like, subscribe, and share your perspective in the comments.

#ElasGotTheTea #RedditStories #EntitledPeople #Storytime #AdviceColumn

An advice column with tea.

This week: an OP whose four year old is dry all day, every day, and still can't call it done. An OP who wants their husband to send his teenage daughter and her baby to live with the grandmother. And an OP whose sister in law traded away a six year old's shiny Ponyta, for a Bidoof, and found out exactly how fast a mother can hit the transfer button.

Grab your cup. Let me pour.

Chapters

00:00 — Cold Open 00:19 — Intro 01:38 — What Counts as Potty Trained (r/Parenting) 04:46 — My take 09:52 — Send His Daughter and Her Baby Away (r/AmIOverreacting) 18:59 — The comments 20:43 — My take 31:53 — The Shiny Ponyta (r/AmIOverreacting) 37:02 — The comments 37:49 — My take 40:50 — The Last Pour

Tea of the month: Tea Forte Vanilla Pear, a low-caffeine white tea — teaforte.com

This month's charity: AdoptAClassroom.org. Teachers across the country post what they need for the school year, and you can give to the organization or straight to a specific classroom. Help these teachers have enough to pour back into the next generation.

Stories come from public Reddit posts. I never use usernames and I never contact anyone in a post. Subreddits and titles are on screen if you want to read the original.

New episodes every Monday.

An advice column with tea. ☕✨
Every week, we unpack real stories from the internet’s messiest corners—looking past surface drama to understand what’s actually going on underneath.

Grab your favorite cup. Let me pour.

📖 In this episode:
• The Suitcase by the Door: An OP who packs a bag and leaves their own house every single time their mother-in-law visits.
• The Birthday He Stopped Sharing: An OP drawing a hard boundary around celebrating their child after years of high-conflict family tension.
• The Rainbow Bookshelf: A partner reorganizes an entire personal library by aesthetic color—sparking the fight that broke the silence.

⚠️ Content Note: Story 2 touches on high-conflict divorce, infidelity, and co-parenting dynamics. Timestamps are provided below if you prefer to skip.

⏱️ Chapters & Stories:
00:00 — Open
01:25 — The Suitcase by the Door (r/JUSTNOMIL)
11:55 — The Birthday He Stopped Sharing (r/AmIOverreacting)
23:49 — The Rainbow Bookshelf (r/AmItheButtface)
30:01 — The Last Pour

🍵 Tea of the Month:
Tea Forté Vanilla Pear (a delicate, low-caffeine white tea) — https://teaforte.com

💛 This Month's Charity:
AdoptAClassroom.org — Teachers spend hundreds out of pocket each year. Support teachers and classrooms directly: https://www.adoptaclassroom.org

📺 Watch More from Ela's Got the Tea:
• Watch Episode 1: The Funeral, The Coach Call & The Widower
• Channel Trailer: An Advice Column With Tea

📌 About the Stories:
Sourced from public Reddit discussions. I never share usernames or contact anyone featured. Subreddits and post titles are on screen if you'd like to read the originals.

🗓️ New episodes drop every Monday!
If this felt like a comforting place to land, please like, subscribe, and share your perspective in the comments.

#ElasGotTheTea #RedditStories #AITB #Storytime #AdviceColumn

An advice column with tea. Three real posts a week, and instead of telling you who the villain is, I'll tell you what's actually going on underneath.

This is the first one. New episodes every Monday.

Today we cover:

A woman is dead. And OP won't let their own daughter go to the funeral, because their daughter is the reason she's gone.

Also this week: OP makes their kid ring the coach and quit for themselves, and a widower gets shouted at for finally clearing out his own house.

Chapters

00:00 — Open

01:51 — The Coach Call (r/AmItheAsshole)

10:05 — The Funeral (r/AmItheAsshole)

19:30 — The Widower (r/AmItheAsshole)

27:38 — The Last Pour

Heads up: The Funeral deals with death and infidelity. The Widower deals with the death of a spouse. Both are timestamped above.

Tea of the month: vanilla pear white tea. It's from the Tea Forte Lotus sampler I'm working my way through →

https://teaforte.com/products/gourmet-tea-lotus-collection-single-steeps-17866

This month's charity: AdoptAClassroom.org. Most teachers spend around $895 a year of their own money on classroom supplies. You can give to the organisation directly, or find a teacher or school near you → https://www.adoptaclassroom.org/

What this show is, why I make it, and what you can expect every Monday. I'm Ela. Your host, your mom friend, and the person who reads you the internet's messiest family drama so you don't have to go digging for it yourself.

First episode September 7.