We all have patterns that once kept us safe but now keep us stuck. In this episode of Stronger Standards, I explore how compassion isn’t about being “soft,” but about building the inner strength and steadiness needed to work with those patterns—without being driven by them.

I talk about:

• Why old safety strategies keep us stuck
• Compassion as a trainable brain state
• Reflection vs. rumination (and venting)
• Why self-compassion creates stronger boundaries
• Key compassionate qualities: wisdom, strength, commitment
• The role of play, posture, and embodiment
• Using the body to support mindset change
• Choosing small, daily actions that create lasting change

This episode is about becoming the version of yourself who can meet challenges with steadiness, intention, and aliveness—one small, embodied choice at a time.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction: Understanding Patterns and Compassion

00:42 - The Role of Compassion in Change

01:30 - Journaling and Self-Reflection

02:30 - Misconceptions About Compassion

03:05 - Qualities of Compassionate Minds

06:00 - Embodying Compassionate Qualities

10:30 - Using Body Posture to Support the Mind

13:51 - Starting the Day with Compassion

15:31 - Practical Actions to Embody Qualities

20:16 - Conclusion: Building Capacity to Show Up Differently

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here
• Join Body Image Fundamentals: learn more here