Passage: Genesis 34:1-31 | Message By: Austin Dyck | Series: Blood Brothers1. Recap
Today we come to Genesis 34, where a lot happens that seems out of the blue after the happy events we saw in the last chapter.
In chapter 33, after returning from 20 years in Paddan-aram, Jacob reunites with his brother in an unexpected reconciliation. Instead of wanting to kill him, which had been the whole reason Jacob ran away in the first place, Esau wants Jacob to come and live with him.
But Jacob can’t do that. And one of the reasons is because God told him to go back to the land of Canaan—the land of his people, the land God promised him. The land God promised to bring him back to.
But God’s promise to bring Jacob back to the land isn’t the only promise on the table. There’s also a promise that Jacob made to God. On His way out of the land, after God met him and promised to bring him back to the land, this happened:
“Then Jacob made a vow, saying, ‘If God will be with me and will keep me in this way that I go, and will give me bread to eat and clothing to wear, so that I come again to my father’s house in peace, then the Lord shall be my God, and this stone, which I have set up for a pillar, shall be God’s house. And of all that you give me I will give a full tenth to you’” (Genesis 28:20–22).
If God keeps His word—which is almost a dare, given that God promised to do this—then God will be Jacob’s God, and Jacob will set up that stone to be God’s house.
Perhaps he means to make a temple for God there, or even just build an altar. The point is, He’s promised to come back to this place when God brings him back to the land in peace.
And look what God has done. He’s brought him back to the land—and He’s done it in peace. He’s given him peace with Laban, peace with Esau.
So what should Jacob be doing next? I mean, he knows how kind God has been to him. Before he met Esau, he said, “I am not worthy of the least of all the deeds of steadfast love and all the faithfulness that you have shown to your servant, for with only my staff I crossed this Jordan, and now I have become two camps” (Genesis 32:10).
He should be heading straight for Bethel. But instead, he seems to be dragging his feet. We saw last week that after Esau leaves him, he settles for a time in Succoth, on the far side of the Jordan, not even in the land of Canaan officially, and he stays there long enough to build a home and booths for his animals. He was in no rush.
And then we were told he came peacefully to Shechem, in the land of Canaan (33:18). A step closer. He buys some land and builds an altar, which is good, but he still hasn’t come all the way back to Bethel.
It seems like he’s on his way there. But he’s taking his time. God has kept His promises to Him, but He’s not showing any urgency to keep his promise to God.
And it’s here, on the outskirts of Shechem, almost-but-not-quite where he should be, that a terrible thing happens to his daughter.
2. Conflict
• Dinah & Shechem
“Now Dinah the daughter of Leah, whom she had borne to Jacob, went out to see the women of the land.” (34:1)
Besides their births and meanings of their names, none of Jacob’s children have been mentioned to this point. Now, we’re reintroduced to Dinah as the daughter of Leah. We’ve already seen that Jacob didn’t care much for Leah and didn’t care as much about the children that Leah had borne to him.
In this time in history, for a young woman to go out alone was dangerous. Remember how Boaz told Ruth to stay close to his servants so that nothing bad would happen to her? So why is Dinah, with a dad and twelve brothers, going out by herself? Does this suggest some neglect from her family?
Whatever the case may be, we do know that she is seen by Shechem, who we read to be the son of Hamor the Hivite, and prince of the land (34:2). In verse 2, we read that when Shechem (who was a young man—34:19) saw Dinah (who was a young woman—34:3) – “ he seized her and lay with her and humiliated her.” (34:2)
Shechem saw Dinah, and he took her, and he forced himself on her, and it’s probably accurate to view this as an act of rape. His behavior follows the same pattern as Eve in the garden, who saw that the fruit was good, and took it and ate of it. Lust follows the same patterns.
But here, it’s another person involved. And what Shechem does is awful.
There is no excuse for what Shechem did, and nothing Dinah did made her deserve or cause this to happen. She is a victim here of a violent, lustful aggressor. Shechem treated Dinah in a way that no man should ever treat a woman, no excuses.
What’s interesting is that after Shechem’s shameful act, we read in verse 3 that his soul was drawn to Dinah, and that he loved her, and even spoke tenderly to her. This almost seems like phrases that we would hear in a romantic love story, not in the following of this terrible event.
Shechem may be seeing more of Dinah than he did before for him to now treat her in a “loving” matter. Although, this use of “love” by the author is up for interpretation, and it is debatable if Shechem loved her more than just a first glance, and is experiencing anything more than just empty feelings.
His behavior towards her certainly doesn’t suggest genuine love. Nevertheless, in the grip of these romantic feelings, verse 4 tells us that “Shechem spoke to his father Hamor, saying, “Get me this girl for my wife” (34:4). He wants Dinah to now – be his wife.
It seems like Shechem totally ignores his awful actions towards her, and has no remorse or regret. His lust is still very strong—he still wants Dinah, but he just wants her for keeps now.
• Family Responses
So as Shechem goes to his father, there’s another father who hears this – being Jacob. Jacob hears of this news from possibly a witness or servant, and we would expect him to be fuming with anger after hearing of his daughter’s abuse. We’ve seen Jacob angry before. Dads, how would you respond if you heard this kind of thing happened to your daughter?
How do we see Jacob respond? “But his sons were with his livestock in the field, so Jacob held his peace until they came.” (30:5) For Jacob, a man of initiative, strength, and willfulness as we’ve seen throughout his life so far, it’s surprising to see here that Jacob doesn’t act, at all – but stands still until his sons get back. Does this possibly show a lack of care for Dinah?
Now at the same time, Hamor, Shechem’s father is making his way out to speak with Jacob, in following up on Shechem’s strong request. Hamor may or may not of heard the whole story of what happened between Dinah and Shechem – but seems that if he did, he turns a blind eye to it.
What does give us a sense of balance in the midst of Jacob’s slowness, and Hamor’s quickness to action, is verse 7: “The sons of Jacob had come in from the field as soon as they heard of it, and the men were indignant and very angry…” (30:7a).
Them being indignant displayed a recognition that what was done to Dinah was awful, and they were very angry “because he had done an outrageous thing in Israel by lying with Jacob’s daughter, for such a thing must not be done.” (30:7b)
At this point, we can understand and relate to, and even cheer for their anger. Their anger appears righteous, because they are responding to the outrageous thing that had been done to their sister. It’s good to be angry when someone else is wronged, and certainly the brothers, who hear and rush home in anger, appear more to be in a positive light than their father at this point.
3. Proposals
As the story continues, Hamor the Hivite comes to Jacob’s land. “But Hamor spoke with them, saying, “The soul of my son Shechem longs for your daughter. Please give her to him to be his wife.” (30:8)
In this time in history, families—and fathers in particular—had more of a role in securing marriage partners. Hamor speaks to “them,” verse 8, which we find out includes Jacob and his sons.
We’re not sure if it was normal for the brothers to be part of these negotiations, but at least it seems like a good thing at this point because of their greater concern for Dinah, than Jacob appears to demonstrate.
And it does seem as though Jacob’s sons have an important role to play here. Hamor’s use of the term “your daughter” in verse 8 is plural, meaning that Hamor is attributing to Jacob and his sons the role of being the father to Dinah. As the record displays, the sons are now representatives of Israel, and will have a part to play in how this proposal pans out.
• The Hivite Offer
In following his son’s request, Hamor then makes one of his own in verses 9 & 10. He proposes three things: intermarriage, trading opportunities, and land acquisition. Hamor wants his people and the people of Israel to join together as one. That way, the whole Dinah and Shechem incident can become an effective way for both groups to profit.
We should give some credit to Hamor for his cleverness, making a proposal to Jacob’s house that would give them much more land than they had currently, and perhaps greater protection and prosperity.
But we should also be concerned about this, because Jacob and his sons are clearly the smaller group here, and so if they mix with these people, it seems like they will be absorbed into the Hivites and cease even to exist as a distinct people.
This offer is not in line with what God had promised to Jacob.
And as Hamor finishes his offer, Shechem, who apparently had come along with his father, says, “Let me find favor in your eyes, and whatever you say to me I will give. Ask for a great bride-price and gift as you will, and I will give whatever you say to me. Only give me the young woman to be my wife.” (34:11b-12)
Shechem is trying to give an offer to Jacob’s house that they cannot refuse.