Inside, she explores:

→ The key difference: emotion regulation is top-down (cognitive, in your mind) while nervous system regulation is bottom-up (visceral, in your body)

→ Why nervous system regulation must come first—it's the power source that creates space for emotional regulation (the software) to work

→ Practical tools for regulating your nervous system in the moment: 4-6 count breathing, moving away from the trigger, grounding your feet, cold water on your hands, ice cubes

→ The PARR framework mapped to regulation: Pause and Acknowledge are nervous system work, Respond and Reflect are emotion regulation work

→ Why kids regulate faster when we stay steady—they need to see the boundary held consistently to feel safe, and our calm nervous system teaches theirs how to co-regulate

This episode is packed with actionable strategies, real examples, and the kind of clarity that makes you think, "Oh, THAT'S why nothing else was working."

Resources & Links:

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ The Bundle: Four most popular courses (Getting Your Kids to Listen the First Time, Tackling Tantrums Masterclass, How to Connect with Your Strong-Willed Kids, Managing Your Reactions) + brand new bonuses including scripts for emotional dysregulation - https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/albiona-the-bundle

→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (and Repair)

→ The mantra: "I am safe and so are they"

→ Albiona's PARR Journal (created for parents by request)

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://albiona.substack.com/

→ Email Albiona: [email protected]

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Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who's struggling with reactivity, a mom who keeps losing it in the moment, or anyone who wants to understand why they can't seem to access the "right" parenting response when they need it most.

Because the truth is: you can't think your way out of a nervous system response. You have to regulate your body first—and then everything else becomes possible.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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