ReLearned

Emotional Intelligence

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In an era that often values traditional intelligence as the key to success, one facet of human capacity tends to be underestimated - emotional intelligence. Unlike standard cognitive measures, emotional intelligence delves into our ability to comprehend, control, and channel not only our own emotions but also those of people around us. This profound concept has the potential to reshape our personal and professional landscapes, equipping us to cultivate healthier connections, sharpen our decision-making prowess, and lead more gratifying lives.

In this episode of ReLearned, Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa delve into the realm of emotional intelligence, exploring its significance across diverse life domains and its potential for growth. They draw inspiration from Daniel Goleman's work and shed light on the telltale signs of low emotional intelligence. While sharing personal anecdotes, the hosts underscore the value of empathy, accountability, and self-awareness, and they also touch on the influence of parenting styles on emotional intelligence, referencing Dr. John Gottman's research. The episode culminates with an empowering message encouraging listeners to continue their journey of emotional intelligence development and explore additional resources for further enrichment.


Key Takeaways

  • Emotional intelligence is a powerful skill that can be developed over time.
  • Low emotional intelligence can negatively impact relationships and overall success.
  • Taking accountability and acknowledging mistakes is crucial for building trust in relationships.
  • Mental health issues can affect a person's ability to regulate emotions and interact with others.
  • Parenting plays a significant role in a person's emotional intelligence.
  • Developing emotional intelligence is a lifelong journey that can be pursued through resources and learning opportunities.


    • In This Episode:

    • [00:03] The concept of emotional intelligence
    • [00:36] The importance of practicing emotional intelligence
    • [05:23] Signs of low emotional intelligence
    • [06:02] Lack of self-awareness and defensiveness
    • [07:10] Taking responsibility and acknowledging mistakes
    • [09:15] Mental health issues and low EQ
    • [12:13] Alexithymia and its relationship to emotional intelligence
    • [14:56] The importance of parenting in developing emotional intelligence
    • [16:22] Exploring childhood messages about emotions
    • [19:25] The importance of emotional coaching
    • [21:37] Getting comfortable with discomfort
    • [22:44] Repairing ourselves and learning emotional skills
    • [23:42] Resources for learning about emotional intelligence
    • [25:13] Continuing the journey of personal growth


      • Notable Quotes

      • [08:21] “I respect someone so much more when they say they messed up. When they say that they made a mistake because we all make mistakes.” - Billy
      • [12:51] “When people experience trauma, especially in their early childhood with their parents, often what I see is that they were in an environment where emotions weren't safe to feel and express. - Nidhi
      • [22:12] “My perspective is we've got to get comfortable being able to just let people experience things and not to feel compelled to make it stop, to try to make it better, to try to push it away or sweep it under the rug.” - Nidhi
      • [23:49] “Don't get down on yourself if you feel like you're behind. If you feel like you're in a position where the cards you were dealt left you in a position to have lower emotional intelligence, that's okay.” – Billy 


        • Resources and Links

        Nidhi Tewari

        • https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/
        • https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/
        • https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW
        • https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/
        • https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi


          • Billy Samoa

          • https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/
          • https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/
          • https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa
          • https://twitter.com/BillySamoa
          • https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/
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            ReLearnedBy Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa