There are many reasons why we try to hide who we are. We say yes when we really mean no so that we do not disappoint people, or through fear of being disliked. We go along with our spouse’s plans to see the latest football game at the stadium or chick flick at the movies even though we can’t stand them because we do not want to ‘rock the boat’ in our relationship. We see a total disaster looming on a project at work but don’t dare speak up for fear of being ridiculed or seen as too bossy, unfeminine, weak, or scared.

All of these examples of inauthentic living might not seem like a big deal, but if you find yourself constantly behaving like this all day, every day, not being authentic can soon take its toll on your mental and physical health. You might think you are “getting away with it” or “faking it ‘til you make it”, but there are many emotional and even physical health-related consequences of living an inauthentic life.

The Emotional Consequences of Not Being Authentic

The emotional consequences of leading an inauthentic life include:

Low self-esteem - Feelings of not being appreciated, loved or valued for who you are.

Low self-confidence - Feelings of “not being good enough” to be yourself.

Low self-worth - Feeling like you are a fraud or don’t deserve your good fortune, also known as “impostor syndrome.”

Keeping up appearances even if you are in serious trouble - Thinking you always have to play a role to keep people happy or fulfill certain expectations; living behind a mask for fear of what others will think of you.

Feeling like a caged tiger - As your inauthentic behaviors increase, so too can your feelings of “being trapped” in a relationship or certain role, such as the perfect wife, the dutiful son, the successful businessman.

Low self-respect - You will not be able to respect yourself, let alone earn the respect of others if you don’t actively try to be truthful and live your best life. You may think you are fooling people, but most will sense you are being insincere or a fraud in some way.

Low self-regard - Always trying to make others happy, while feeling miserable yourself. You go along with things for the sake of a quiet life. You don’t allow yourself to say no and to mean it.

The Physical Consequences of Not Being Authentic

All of these emotional consequences will usually be accompanied by physical changes in the body, which over time can lead to serious health issues. The physical consequences of living an inauthentic life include:

Stress

Tension

Anxiety

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What are the things everyone does because it’s “what you do”.  Where did you learn about these things, when did you first realize you were complying with a social construct and how did it happen.  What choices did you make without realizing it was a choice?  What other choices did it force as part of the initial action - unconscious or forced.  Would you have chosen something else if you'd known what was happening?

Common paths people take, social norms can lead you down a path without understanding what

has happened.

What are the "things everyone does". Where did you learn about these things, when

did you first realize you were complying with a social construct and how did it happen.

What choices did you make without realizing it was a choice. What other choices did it

force as part of the initial action - unconscious or forced. Would you have chosen

something else if you'd known what was happening.

We have commercials, social media, advertisements on road and nearly everywhere

Goal is to influence you: The influence will either be fear or trust. to get money,

to the gain of the company/organization vs benefiting you as an individual

improving your life and your ability to live the life of your desire.

Health care: Allopathic approach vs holistic approach, a combination of the two,

none at all

Have you explored your options for the particular life choice you are coming to make?

Pregnancy, birth, BF

Self- care health

iii. Foods and products

Physician vs naturopath, chiro, acupunture/Chinese medicine,

ayurvadic,

 

Example: As a former peds RN, I cared for babies and children in the hospital. I saw the way their care was determined. Tests, Drugs and surgery. A fine and lifesaving ability when it is the best choice.

I moved from in hospital care to visiting nurse/ homecare. During the time, I was exposed to chiropractic and nutrition. I knew only that there was medicine. Now I had seen there was something more.

Baby sent home to die/baby with genetic issues parents told its all we can do/gymnast had back fused,

I have since then gained by my own study and attending classes to look at nature first and medicine second. And there sometimes there is a very nice balance between the two.

The dietary pattern that characterizes the Western diet is strongly associated with obesity and related metabolic diseases, but biological mechanisms supporting these associations remain largely unknown.

We argue that the Western diet promotes inflammation that arises from both structural and behavioral changes in the resident microbiome.

The environment created in the gut by ultra-processed foods, a hallmark of the Western diet, is an evolutionarily unique selection ground for microbes that can promote diverse forms of inflammatory disease.

Recognizing the importance of the microbiome in the development of diet-related disease has implications for future research, public dietary advice as well as food production practices.

Research into food patterns suggests that whole foods are a common denominator of diets associated with a low level of diet-related disease. Hence, by studying how ultra-processing changes the properties of whole foods and how these foods affect the gut microbiome, more useful dietary guidelines can be made.

Innovations in food production should be focusing on enabling health in the super-organism of man and microbe, and stronger regulation of potentially hazardous components of food products is warranted.

 

Ultra-Processed Foods as Drivers of Diet-Related Disease

Factors that Promote Inflammation through Diet-Microbiome-Host Interactions

Acellular Nutrients—A Major Shift in Our Diets

Food Additives

 

Solutions

Probiotic or fermented foods could contain beneficial bacterial molecules left in the foods during fermentation. Studies have shown beneficial effects of fermented milk products on metabolic markers in mice [74,75,76], also independently of the presence of live probiotic bacteria, either in the product or in the gut of the recipient [77]. It has been demonstrated in vitro that metabolites from probiotic bacteria are capable of reducing the release of pro-inflammatory cytokines 

A large body of research now supports the hypothesis that the Western Diet is causing changes in gut microbiota associated with obesity and metabolic disease [67]. There also seems to be consensus that fixing the diet-induced dysbiosis is a possible approach in fighting the obesity epidemic [108]. Several researchers speak of the promising potential of gut microbiota-modifying therapies, such as probiotics, prebiotics, synbiotics or fecal microbiota transplants and the need for more research into these topics

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What Would You Be Doing If You Didn’t Get Caught Up In Things 

Getting caught up in life is a weird argument we tend to use to justify our state of probably being-a-bit-too-busy-and-not-too-happy. It is a terrible joke we play on ourselves that lets us continuously do unproductive and useless stuff.

While we are aware of our inertia most of the time, we don’t always realize how much potentially great/ productive/ valuable/ useful or just time we are wasting “being busy” (with work, with friends, saving or spending, watching TV or travelling).

Being busy is a choice and we don’t need to be busy to gain importance. Because if you are too busy to do something you actually want to do or meet someone you actually want to see, then you have a big problem with prioritizing and organizing your life.

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Life doesn't always give us what we want, but it sure gives us what we need. It's funny how that happens. Sometimes, we're so sure about how things are supposed to play out that we fight, kicking and screaming, any deviation of the plan that comes our way. Oddly enough, the more we resist, the more it persists and the harder we make it on ourselves. It's like trying to swim upstream against a strong current. Our arms and legs move furiously, but we get nowhere. We end up completely exhausted and out of breath.

While I truly believe that the choices we make and even the thoughts we think all matter greatly and affect the outcome of our existence, I also believe there is also another force at work and our role is actually more of a co-creator in our own lives. We all have unique gifts to offer the world, and certain passions that lie inside of us wanting to get out. This is our soul's work. Our calling. It's what makes us feel totally alive. The universe wants and needs us to do this work. In our daily lives, we're constantly given signs to try to lead us to our higher self, enabling us to leave a positive impact on the world.

But, here's the thing.

What you think about you bring about.  How does the law of attraction work?  When you're dwelling on the negative, what are you attracting? What tools can you use to bring your awareness to this, and make a change? 

 

Our lives are a series of opposites, mirror images, and opposing forces.

You have the choice of where to put your energy and attention.  What you focus on you attract into your life.

 

Problem or Solution

Focusing on the problem rarely helps matters. It doesn’t allow you to consider the solution.

It wastes your time and energy and leaves you exhausted from fear and worry and prevent you from taking decisive action.

Your mind can only give its full attention to one thing at a time.

Fear, self-doubt and worry may prevent you from moving forward and dealing with the issue at hand.

But if you focus on the solution, you actively engage your mind in resolving the matter.

You have little time for negative thinking.

Take charge of dealing with a problem, you can choose the best way to resolve it.

Get the outcome you want as you influence events with your actions and choices.

 

Law of Attraction

Three central universal principles that make up the law of attraction:

Like attracts like: This law suggests that similar things are attracted to one another. It means that people tend to attract people who are similar to them—but it also suggests that people's thoughts tend to attract similar results. Negative thinking is believed to attract negative experiences, while positive thinking is believed to produce desirable experiences.

Nature abhors a vacuum: This law of attraction suggests that removing negative things from your life can make space for more positive things to take their place. It is based on the notion that it is impossible to have a completely empty space in your mind and in your life. Since something will always fill this space, it is important to fill that space with positivity, proponents of this philosophy say.

The present is always perfect: This law focuses on the idea that there are always things you can do to improve the present moment. While it might always seem like the present is somehow flawed, this law proposes that, rather than feeling dread or unhappiness, you should focus your energy on finding ways to make the present moment the best that it can be.

Physical effects

Our mind, body and spirit are affected by how we think and choose to live our

life. If you have tension,

your neuro chemicals are affected

Words have power.  When we use them without intent/consideration they do damage.  Words we use to hurt/put down/make superior.  Those we hurt lose trust.