Insecurity isn’t a flaw — it’s a learned pattern. The good news? You can unlearn it.

In this episode of Empowerment Solutions, I break down 10 hidden reasons why you feel insecure — and what you can do to rebuild confidence from the inside out.

From negative self-talk to people-pleasing and comparison, these everyday habits quietly fuel self-doubt. But once you recognize them, you can start to change them, one step at a time.

Dr Friedemann's Takeaways:

Understanding the Roots of Insecurity (00:00)

Challenging Negative Self-Talk (02:28)

Comparing and Competing with Others (05:24)

Fear of Judgment and Rejection (08:42)

Perfectionism and Unrealistic Expectations (12:26)

Procrastination as a Barrier (15:26)

Taking Control of Personal Narrative (18:38)

The Impact of Judging Others (21:57)

Self-Responsibility and Self-Reflection (23:47)

Encouraging Self-Acceptance and Empowerment (24:27)

Listen and discover how to stop being insecure — and start healing insecurity.

Friedemann Schaub, MD, PhD, is the award-winning author of The Fear + Anxiety Solution. Dr. Schaub has helped thousands of people with his Personal Breakthrough and Empowerment program to overcome their fear and anxiety by addressing the deeper, subconscious root causes of these emotional challenges.

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In this powerful episode, I explore the unspoken crisis many men, especially young men, are facing today: the pressure to perform masculinity instead of living authentically. With rising rates of depression, anxiety, and disconnection, it's time to ask more profound questions:

Who are you beneath the mask? And what if being a man starts with being fully human?

Through personal stories, client experiences, and six clear steps, you'll discover how to reclaim your inner strength—not through toughness or dominance—but through kindness, presence, and truth.

👉 If you've ever felt like you're not "man enough," this conversation is for you.

Dr Friedemann's Takeaways:

• Struggles of Young Men and Societal Expectations (00:00)
• The Analogy of Training a Horse (02:04)
• The Importance of Being a Human Over a Man (06:38)
• Six Ways to Be a Good Human Being (11:22)
• Leading with Love and Self-Love (19:01)

Friedemann Schaub, MD, PhD, is the award-winning author of The Fear + Anxiety Solution. Dr. Schaub has helped thousands of people with his Personal Breakthrough and Empowerment program to overcome their fear and anxiety by addressing the deeper, subconscious root causes of these emotional challenges.

Learn more at: https://DrFriedemann.com

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Are you doing all the “right” things—self-care, new hobbies, connection—yet still not feeling joyful? You’re not alone.

In this episode, I explore why joy can feel so elusive, especially during uncertain times, and why chasing happiness through doing often backfires. Instead, you’ll discover how to create joy from within and find fulfillment in small, meaningful moments.

💡 You’ll learn:

• Finding Joy Amidst Challenges (00:00)
• Choosing Joy and Setting Intentions (01:40)
• Being Present and Engaging the Senses (05:49)
• Memory Lane and Daydreaming (09:48)
• Letting Go of Resistance and Being Playful (13:13)
• Connecting with Others and Taking Care of Ourselves (17:34)
• Joy as a Guiding Force (20:11)

Whether you’re stuck in survival mode, overwhelmed by the state of the world, or just feeling “blah,” this conversation will help you shift your mindset and reconnect with what truly lights you up.

Your joy doesn’t need to be earned. It just needs to be allowed.

🎧 Press play, and let’s rediscover joy—one small moment at a time.

Friedemann Schaub, MD, PhD, is the award-winning author of The Fear + Anxiety Solution. Dr. Schaub has helped thousands of people with his Personal Breakthrough and Empowerment program to overcome their fear and anxiety by addressing the deeper, subconscious root causes of these emotional challenges.

Learn more at: https://DrFriedemann.com

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Have you ever asked yourself, What is this all for?

With everything happening in the world—the chaos, division, and uncertainty—it’s easy to feel lost, disconnected, or even hopeless. But what if purpose isn’t something we have to chase?

What if it’s something we can create in our daily lives, in the small, meaningful moments?

In this episode, I share personal reflections on purpose, why so many of us struggle to find it, and simple ways to reconnect with what truly matters. Whether you're at a crossroads or just feeling a little stuck, this conversation is here to remind you—you do have a purpose, and it might be closer than you think.

Let’s explore this together.

Dr Friedemann's Takeaways:

• Finding Purpose in a Chaotic World (00:00)
• The Disconnection from Self (03:37)
• Defining Purpose Beyond Societal Norms (09:50)
• The Role of Self-Knowledge and Contribution (10:31)
• Creating Your Own Purpose (13:17)
• Finding Joy and Fulfillment (18:00)
• Balancing Personal Growth and Contribution (25:29)
• The Importance of Being Present (25:50)
• Creating a Purposeful Life (26:08)
• Finding Joy in Small Moments (27:00)

Friedemann Schaub, MD, PhD, is the award-winning author of The Fear + Anxiety Solution. Dr. Schaub has helped thousands of people with his Personal Breakthrough and Empowerment program to overcome their fear and anxiety by addressing the deeper, subconscious root causes of these emotional challenges.

Learn more at: https://DrFriedemann.com

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Giving advice to a narcissist can be a challenge—most don't believe they need it.

But if they're willing to listen, what's the best approach?

In this video, we dive into the root causes of narcissistic behavior, why they seek external validation, and how real healing happens.

Learn how to encourage self-reflection, set boundaries, and guide narcissists toward authentic self-worth. Listen now to understand the psychology behind narcissism and what advice (if any) can truly help.

Dr. Friedemann's Takeaways:

• Understanding Narcissism and Its Origins (00:00)
• Compassion vs. Empathy in Dealing with Narcissists (02:16)
• The Roots of Narcissism in Childhood (04:29)
• Narcissistic Behavior and Its Consequences (07:37)
• Narcissistic Attachment and Cultural Influences (14:01)
• The Lonely and Insecure Nature of Narcissists (17:26)
• Healing and Value Shifts for Narcissists (21:59)
• Advice for Those Dealing with Narcissists (28:53)

Friedemann Schaub, MD, PhD, is the award-winning author of The Fear + Anxiety Solution. Dr. Schaub has helped thousands of people with his Personal Breakthrough and Empowerment program to overcome their fear and anxiety by addressing the deeper, subconscious root causes of these emotional challenges.

Learn more at: https://DrFriedemann.com

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Do you ever feel like time is running your life?

From waking up to eating, working, and even feeling accomplished, we constantly check the clock for permission. But what if time isn't as rigid as we think?

In this episode of Empowerment Solutions, I explore how time shapes our emotions, decisions, and self-worth—and why we don't have to let it. I'll share five powerful ways to stop being a prisoner of the clock and start living in sync with your own needs and rhythms.

It's time to take your power back. Listen now and learn how to break free from time's grip!

Dr. Friedemann's Takeaways:

• Time as an Omnipresent Force (00:00)
• Historical Context and Subconscious Programming (01:49)
• Reclaiming Power from Time (03:00)
• Challenging the Permission Structure of Time (04:41)
• Reevaluating Work and Life Goals (07:32)
• Freedom from Arbitrary Time Benchmarks (10:50)
• Living Authentically and Fulfilling Life (13:50)
• Empowerment Through Awareness and Inner Guidance (15:34)

Friedemann Schaub, MD, PhD, is the award-winning author of The Fear + Anxiety Solution. Dr. Schaub has helped thousands of people with his Personal Breakthrough and Empowerment program to overcome their fear and anxiety by addressing the deeper, subconscious root causes of these emotional challenges.

Learn more at: https://DrFriedemann.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com//DrFriedemann

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Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be emotionally draining and harmful. In this week's episode, learn how to recognize the signs, set firm boundaries, protect your emotional well-being, and safely exit the relationship.

Discover practical strategies and examples to reclaim your power and start your healing journey.

Dr Friedemann's Takeaways:

• There Are 3 Boundaries (00:00)
• Boundary One - Communication (07:13)
• Boundary Two - Taking Care Of Yourself (10:00)
• Boundary Three - Energetic (12:20)
• Practice Detachment (20:00)
• Evaluate Your Return On Investment (22:35)
• Make A List Of Joy (25:46)
• Have An Exit Plan (27:43)

Friedemann Schaub, MD, PhD, is the award-winning author of The Fear + Anxiety Solution. Dr. Schaub has helped thousands of people with his Personal Breakthrough and Empowerment program to overcome their fear and anxiety by addressing the deeper, subconscious root causes of these emotional challenges.

Learn more at: https://DrFriedemann.com

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Just based on the traits shared in last week's episode [FOUND HERE: https://youtu.be/Pq4JaWjrNXQ ], being in a romantic relationship with a narcissist can feel like a rollercoaster.

However, there is a predictable cycle that can leave you feeling confused and emotionally drained. In today's video, we take a closer look at the three-phase pattern and what we can do to avoid them for ourselves ....

Idealization Phase - Devaluation Phase - Discard Phase

Dr Friedemann's Takeaways:

• Idealization Phase in Narcissistic Relationships (00:00)
• Devaluation Phase and Control (01:51)
• Discarding Phase and Abuse (03:19)
• Hoovering Phase and Repeat Cycle (04:37)
• Patterns and Self-Denial in Narcissistic Relationships (06:13)
• Steps to Take and Final Thoughts (08:43)

Learn how to recognize the phases and protect yourself from manipulation. Remember, narcissistic behavior often stems from deep emotional wounds—awareness is key.

In upcoming episodes, we’ll explore the origins of narcissism and how to protect yourself while maintaining compassion.

Friedemann Schaub, MD, PhD, is the award-winning author of The Fear + Anxiety Solution. Dr. Schaub has helped thousands of people with his Personal Breakthrough and Empowerment program to overcome their fear and anxiety by addressing the deeper, subconscious root causes of these emotional challenges.

Learn more at: https://DrFriedemann.com

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How do you spot a narcissist?

Not everyone who’s self-absorbed or controlling fits the bill.

In this part 1 of 2 videos, I share five common traits of narcissism with real-life examples, and then in part 2, coming next week, I explain the classic three-phase pattern of narcissistic relationships: idealization, devaluation, and discard.

Learn how to recognize red flags and protect yourself from manipulation.

Remember, narcissistic behavior often stems from deep emotional wounds—and awareness is key.

Dr Friedemann's Takeaways:

• Understanding Narcissism and Its Overuse (00:00)
• Common Traits of Narcissists (01:25)
• Lack of Empathy and Avoidance of Vulnerability (04:16)
• Entitlement and Hypersensitivity to Criticism (06:24)
• Managing Relationships with Narcissists (10:52)

Friedemann Schaub, MD, PhD, is the award-winning author of The Fear + Anxiety Solution. Dr. Schaub has helped thousands of people with his Personal Breakthrough and Empowerment program to overcome their fear and anxiety by addressing the deeper, subconscious root causes of these emotional challenges.

Learn more at: https://DrFriedemann.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com//DrFriedemann

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Worry can keep you stuck, but you don’t have to stay there.

In this episode, I share three ways to overcome worry and a recent experience that reminded me to respond to emotions, not react. Find out how to break free and rediscover peace!

Dr. Friedemann's Takeaways:

• Being a "Worrywart" (00:00)
• Losing A Horse (01:04)
• Becoming Comfortable With Uncertainty & Not Knowing (05:00)
• Setting Boundaries With Worry (05:45)
• Resilience & The Ability To Handle Challenges (09:52)
• Trusting One's Inner Strength (10:41)

Episodes mentioned today:

Unlocking Resilience: Three External Strengths to Build a Stronger You | ES206

Finding Strength in Tough Times: 3 Powerful Ways to Build Resilience | ES204

Friedemann Schaub, MD, PhD, is the award-winning author of The Fear + Anxiety Solution. Dr. Schaub has helped thousands of people with his Personal Breakthrough and Empowerment program to overcome their fear and anxiety by addressing the deeper, subconscious root causes of these emotional challenges.

Learn more at: https://DrFriedemann.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com//DrFriedemann

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