In this soul-stirring conversation, Xavier Dagba sits down with Lorie Ladd to explore what it truly means to surrender to divine timing, trust the mystery of your path, and stay grounded while owning your light — even when fear, doubt, and shadow safety arise.

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This is a transmission for lightworkers, truth-tellers, and those walking with God in the unknown.

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📌 CHAPTERS

00:00 – Life doesn’t make mistakes

01:47 – Lorie’s “F*** it” moment of surrender

04:00 – Getting on “God’s payroll”

08:00 – Is faith earned or remembered?

10:20 – Childhood wounds and divine wiring

14:55 – Lorie’s direct relationship with Jesus

17:00 – Surrender vs. submission in the body

22:00 – Ego tantrums and divine will

28:00 – Hiding your relationship with God

32:00 – The spiritualized inner critic

37:00 – Why we sabotage our own success

44:00 – “Then what?” and the descent of light

50:00 – The unhealthy pressure to be seen

54:30 – Detaching identity from your role

57:00 – Spiritual burnout and heavy timelines

1:06:00 – Collective disappointment and the pain of hope

1:12:00 – A Christ consciousness revival

1:17:00 – Public ownership of your spiritual path

1:27:00 – How to anchor when surrender feels unsafe

1:34:00 – Microdosing undesirable truths

1:42:00 – A message for the hidden lightworker

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✨ Connect with Lorie Ladd

🌐 Website: https://www.lorieladd.com

📘 The Divine Design book: https://www.lorieladd.com/book

School of Remembrance: https://www.lorieladd.com/school-of-remembrance

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/lorieladd

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Are you caught in cycles of self-abandonment, people-pleasing, or relationships that mirror your pain? In this powerful conversation with Mark Groves, we explore what it truly means to live from your truth, even when it costs you comfort, connection, or the familiar. We talk about the physiological toll of betraying yourself, how to stop sabotaging healthy love, and the rituals that allow love to evolve.

Mark shares his story of breaking off an engagement, walking away from Instagram at the peak of his influence, and how he and his now-wife rekindled their relationship through radical truth and sacred pause. We dive deep into the nervous system, anxious/avoidant patterns, cancel culture, AI, and how to cultivate self-trust in relationships that challenge us to grow.

This is a transmission for anyone ready to stop sabotaging healthy love and start creating connection rooted in truth.

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CHAPTERS
0:00 - Intro: The Cost of Self-Betrayal
0:43 - Welcome and why truth matters in love
3:01 - Speaking truth in family & systems
5:03 - Being the truth-teller in your family
7:05 - Spine and heart: the archetypes of safety
10:08 - Mark’s personal story of breaking patterns
14:35 - Leaving social media and reclaiming power
18:00 - How notifications stress the nervous system
21:00 - Social media, self-abandonment & sickness
24:00 - The trait of truth-telling no matter the cost
27:00 - The spiritual price of betraying your knowing
31:00 - Rekindling love after rupture with Kylie
35:56 - The power of a conscious closing ceremony
39:00 - Rituals that transform endings into beginnings
46:01 - Relationship 2.0: starting fresh, together
49:00 - Trust, uncertainty & anxious attachment
53:00 - Mutuality and the power of saying no more
59:00 - Possession by the wound & interrupting patterns
1:04:10 - Why rupture can build deeper intimacy
1:10:13 - Upgrading our collective conflict IQ
1:12:00 - The Four Horsemen of Relationship Breakdown
1:19:09 - The rise of artificial connection
1:27:00 - Are we burned out from too much connection?
1:29:20 - Mark’s sacred scar of gold: premature birth
1:36:12 - What part of you are you still learning to love?

#MarkGroves #XavierDagba #INTEGRATE #SelfLiberation #RelationalHealing #AnxiousAttachment #AvoidantAttachment #EnheartenedPodcast #EmotionalHealing #RelationshipRepair #PersonalGrowth #ShadowWork

What if the light you crave to embody, the power, visibility, and magnetism you long to live, are all hiding in the very place you’ve been taught to fear: your own shadow?

In this potent solo podcast episode, Xavier Dagba unpacks the concept of the golden shadow: the radiant parts of ourselves that we unconsciously repress due to fear, trauma, and emotional conditioning.

You’ll learn how to recognize your golden shadow through the mirrors of envy and admiration, how self-sabotage is often a love letter from a fearful self, and why integration (not just inspiration) is the true path to sustainable brightness.

This is an invitation to stop romanticizing light and start embodying it. But first… you must claim what you’ve buried.

🧭 Chapters

0:00 – The Light You Repress Still Waits

0:33 – Welcome: Integration, Brightness & the Golden Shadow

1:30 – Why We Fear the Consequences of Our Light

3:00 – When Brightness Festers: Existential Grief

5:00 – Integration: The Bridge Between Inspiration and Embodiment

7:15 – Gold Mixed With Dirt: A Miner’s Metaphor

8:36 – Unsustainable Fire: What Unintegrated Light Does

9:52 – Brightness Requires a Descent Into Shadow

10:55 – When Your Inner Critic Turns Light Into a Tyrant

12:22 – Divine Rebellion: Stop Using Your Light Against Yourself

13:17 – What the Golden Shadow Really Is

14:43 – Repression as the First Self-Abandonment

16:00 – Family Systems, Religious Messaging, and Fear of Pride

17:00 – Somatic Prompts to Uncover Repression

18:01 – You're Not Afraid of Your Light—You're Afraid of the Cost

20:00 – The Saboteur as an Archetypal Love Letter

22:00 – What Your Self-Sabotage Is Really Pointing To

24:30 – What Would I Lose If I Succeeded?

26:40 – Discovering Your Golden Shadow Through Projections

28:00 – Admiration, Envy & Archetypal Mirrors of Your Light

32:40 – Archetypes, Movies & Externalized Longing

34:14 – Collapsing the Distance Between You and Your Power

36:00 – Why Brightness Feels Unsafe: The 6 Core Fears

38:20 – Spiritual Stamina & Building Inner Safety

41:00 – Your Light Is an Initiation

43:00 – You Don’t Need to Force Your Light—You Need to Integrate

44:30 – A Somatic Check-In: What Part of You Still Feels Unsafe?

🌱 Ready to Integrate Your Light?

If this episode speaks to you, you're invited to join the next cohort of INTEGRATE—Xavier’s 4-month transformational journey to help you reclaim repressed gifts, dissolve inner fragmentation, and live, love, and serve from an unleashed heart.

** Next cohort begins: June 29, 2025

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INTEGRATE is for those ready to stop hiding, start healing, and embody the fullness of their soul's power.

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In this raw and revelatory conversation, Xavier Dagba welcomes Dan McLintock, co-founder of the Kiloby Inquiries, for a powerful deep dive into the hidden force controlling your emotions: emotional repression.

Dan opens up about his personal journey as a lifelong anger repressor — from childhood trauma and chronic self-doubt to addiction and disconnection — and how reclaiming his full emotional range transformed his life.

Together, Xavier and Dan unpack the difference between anger and aggression, how repression drives suffering, and why most nervous system regulation techniques only soothe symptoms without addressing the buried emotional roots.

Whether you tend to repress anger or vulnerability, this episode will help you uncover the unconscious stories running your life and show you how to work with your repression rather than against it.

Here is what you’ll learn in this conversation:

⏱ CHAPTERS
00:00 – The buried emotions that drive suffering
01:01 – The epidemic of emotional repression
02:06 – Dan’s experience as an anger repressor
03:33 – How beliefs and programming trap us in confusion
06:00 – Childhood roots: “I have to be good”
08:49 – Becoming the nice guy & disowning anger
10:19 – Addiction and deficiency stories
11:20 – “I think I might be angry” — the beginning of his healing
12:04 – Developing the repression work with Scott Kiloby
13:18 – How repression expresses as sarcasm, ghosting, people-pleasing
15:23 – Anger repression vs vulnerability repression
18:19 – How to tell which one you carry
20:16 – How expressing anger changed Dan’s relationships
22:20 – How Dan’s relationship with his parents evolved
26:00 – The moment Dan told his parents he was furious
28:11 – Baby steps toward healthy expression
29:29 – The embodied power of a true “no”
30:51 – Cleaning anger from the rageful edge
33:20 – The power of counterintuitive permission statements
35:37 – Spiritual bypassing as a form of repression
37:00 – The messiness of healing repression
39:25 – Reclaiming the part of you that agreed not to be like “them”
44:36 – Tools for somatic testing and reverse inquiry
48:45 – When regulation becomes sedation
51:02 – The fear of emotional overwhelm
54:26 – Why affirming repression often works better than resisting it
58:35 – “I have to suffer” – how unconscious beliefs feed anxiety
1:00:04 – How repression mechanisms behave like an illusionist
1:01:00 – Addiction as emotional regulation
1:04:11 – Shame, sobriety, and letting go of self-punishment
1:07:58 – How shame perpetuates the cycle
1:08:57 – When drinking becomes as neutral as eating broccoli
1:09:48 – Spiritual fallacies and weaponized virtue
1:11:00 – Dan on what he’s still learning to love
1:15:08 – Scars of Gold: transforming self-doubt into trust
1:20:00 – Where to find Dan
1:21:18 – Final wisdom: your back is never against the wall

Connect with Dan McLintock
Website: www.Kiloby.com/dan
Instagram: @dan.mclintock
YouTube: @danmclintock1980
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In this episode of ENHEARTENED, I sit down with Christopher August. We explore the breath not just as a physical function, but as a sacred portal into divine intelligence, emotional alchemy, and true inner freedom.

Christopher shares the raw details of his near-death experience on the Zambezi River, how it awakened him to the power of the breath, and how healing his father wound opened the door to deeper devotion, truth, and service. This is a deeply soulful conversation about shame, spiritual masculinity, emotional release, and prosperity as a breath-based frequency.

Whether you’re a breathwork skeptic or a devoted practitioner, this episode will expand your understanding of what’s possible when you learn to breathe fully, consciously, and courageously.

We explore:

Learn more about Christopher:

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Chapters:

00:00 – Welcome: The breath as a sacred teacher

01:37 – Who is Christopher August? Devotion, leadership, and embodiment

06:15 – Seeking external validation vs. inner worth

09:50 – The father wound and the drive to “make it”

13:00 – Estrangement, step-parent dynamics & ancestral trauma

15:57 – Ayahuasca vision: Seeing his father’s hidden pain

18:45 – The impact of fatherlessness on the young psyche

20:50 – A spiritual spark: Receiving Many Lives, Many Masters

22:41 – Africa as a rite of passage: Living close to the earth

26:15 – Drowning on the Zambezi: Death, rebirth & the breath

30:00 – What dying taught him about trust and divine peace

32:11 – Is your breath a conscious being?

33:48 – For the skeptics: What breathwork actually does

35:00 – Guided breath practice: 10 deep rhythmic breaths

39:15 – Emotional release through the breath

43:15 – Trauma, the nervous system & how the breath heals

47:00 – Masculinity & constriction: Why men need breathwork

52:00 – Breath as abundance: Receiving starts with breathing

55:00 – A practice for prosperity through breath

58:10 – The breath-money ritual: Breathing in wealth

1:03:00 – The unconscious trust between exhale and inhale

1:08:30 – The void: Breathing into nothing, creating everything

1:10:00 – Living a breath-centered life

1:14:00 – Shame as a scar of gold

1:22:00 – Breath and truth: Returning to divine presence

#Breathwork #DivineIntelligence #ChristopherAugust #ENHEARTENED #SpiritualHealing #ShadowWork #Masculinity #SomaticHealing #TraumaRelease #SpiritualPodcast

In this episode of ENHEARTENED, I’m joined by Aaron Abke, a former pastor and theological truth-seeker who has spent years unlearning, relearning, and reclaiming the mystical essence of Jesus’ teachings.

Together, we traverse some of the most sensitive and illuminating terrain: What was the original message of Jesus? What parts were co-opted by empire, doctrine, or fear? Why are so many spiritual seekers estranged from their own sense of worthiness before the Divine?

We talk repentance, ego death, Paul’s legacy, the Gospel of Thomas, New Age projections, persecution in the digital age, and what it actually means to walk the Jesus Way, with an open heart, a clear mind, and a soul rooted in love.

This is a sacred reclamation. For anyone who’s ever felt betrayed by religion but still yearns for communion with God. This one is for you.

Aaron’s insights are deep, disarming, and revelatory. Tune in.

Find Aaron’s Work Here:
Website: https://www.aaronabke.com
The Jesus Way Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@aaronabke
4D University: https://www.4duniversity.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aaronabke
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/aaronabke

Chapters:
0:00 – Aaron on the devotion to truth
2:00 – Why ego cannot survive radical honesty
6:15 – Before and after living as a devotee of truth
8:00 – On persecution, projection, and spiritual maturity
15:00 – The real story behind Aaron’s debate with Wes
25:00 – Was Jesus misunderstood by modern Christianity?
30:00 – The lost Gospel of Thomas and Jesus as mystic
38:00 – Pagan influence on Christian dogma
45:00 – The role of Paul: genius or hijacked messenger?
57:00 – Near-death experiences and the truth about divine judgment
1:11:00 – Reframing sin, forgiveness, and the cross
1:27:00 – How trauma shaped Paul’s legacy
1:39:00 – Would Jesus be labeled New Age today?
1:51:00 – How to de-dogmatize and live The Jesus Way
2:03:00 – Aaron’s scars of gold and the cost of awakening
2:15:00 – What it means to live an Enheartened life
2:26:00 – Closing blessings

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In this episode of ENHEARTENED, I’m joined by Bryan Reeves—relationship coach, author of Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her), and a powerful voice in the conversation around conscious masculinity.

Together, we explore the often-invisible journey of modern men navigating relationships, emotional connection, and the reclamation of the inner Lover archetype. This conversation is for any man who has ever felt emotionally shut down in love, and for the women who want to understand what’s really going on behind the wall.

We dive into:

What keeps men emotionally disconnected—and how to break the pattern
The shifts that help men move from performance to presence
Why safety (not strategy) is the missing ingredient in love
How shutdown masculinity shows up in relationships
Why many men mistake intimacy for a loss of freedom
The difference between a warrior and a conqueror
How to offer AND receive emotional safety in partnership
What it looks like to repair after ruptures—and why most men never learned how
The power of trustable brotherhood and how to find it
And why relationships are a mirror for masculine expansion—not a threat to it

This is not about fixing men. It’s about freeing them. And helping them remember that they are worthy of connection without abandoning themselves.

FIND OUT ABOUT BRYAN’S WORK

📚 Grab Bryan’s book: Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her)

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Chapters
00:00 Intro – From warrior to lover: the new masculine path
02:45 Bryan’s military past & emotional shutdown
08:00 The moment he knew something had to change
10:30 How to listen when your life feels “off”
13:45 Why most men never learned how to connect
16:40 The root of male disconnection & resignation
20:20 Your daily energy IS your legacy
23:00 Feedback: how men can start being truly seen
26:45 Archetypes: warrior, lover, and the lost king
30:15 Shadow brotherhood vs. trustable brotherhood
33:50 What makes a good men’s group?
36:00 Warrior vs. conqueror energy in men
40:00 The adolescent vs. integrated man
43:20 Repair work: the 4 steps every man must learn
47:15 The cost of pride & emotional defensiveness
50:45 Feeling unseen in love? Start here
54:00 Why “radical honesty” can destroy relationships
59:30 Creating emotional safety—for yourself and her
1:03:30 The danger of performative healing in men
1:06:15 Why mature love takes years to build
1:10:00 The responsibility of real intimacy
1:14:25 Bryan’s “scar of gold” in love & heartbreak
1:17:40 What men & women must understand about each other
1:20:20 Final reflections + how to work with Bryan

#BryanReeves #MasculineHealing #MenAndLove #ModernRelationships #IntegratedMan #EmotionalConnection #WarriorToLover #ShadowWork #MasculineArchetypes #RelationshipRepair #EmotionalSafety #MenDoingTheWork #BryanReevesPodcast #ENHEARTENED #XavierDagba #MenInLove #MenAndIntimacy #HealthyMasculinity #VulnerabilityIsPower #TrustableBrotherhood #HealingThroughConnection

 In this solo episode of ENHEARTENED with Xavier Dagba, we dive deep into the misunderstood territory of spiritual depression—a soul-initiated pause that invites deep realignment, not pathology.

You’ll learn:

This episode is for anyone walking through a fog they can’t quite explain, feeling disconnected from old identities but not yet anchored in the new.
You’re not broken. You’re in transition. And there is medicine in the undoing.

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Learn how to meet your inner resistance with depth, clarity, and transformation.
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Chapters / Timestamps:
00:00 – The way through spiritual depression isn’t force—it’s surrender
00:58 – What spiritual depression is (and what it’s not)
02:00 – A soul-initiated pause, not clinical pathology
03:00 – The U-turn metaphor: when your soul redirects you
04:45 – Why it’s not laziness—it’s energetic realignment
06:15 – Midlife crisis as a mainstream version of spiritual depression
07:45 – What it feels like when your soul goes quiet
09:10 – The drought of meaning, creativity, and belonging
10:50 – My personal story: the breakdown of 2018
13:20 – Clearing unfinished business to prepare for emergence
15:00 – When your life no longer fits your soul
16:20 – Misunderstandings in both clinical and spiritual spaces
17:50 – The feminine energetics of gestation, mystery, and death
19:10 – The masculine role: courage to walk into the unknown
21:00 – What part of me is rushing this discomfort?
22:00 – 5 powerful prompts for working with spiritual depression
24:40 – Signs you are beginning to emerge
26:20 – Creating from soul, not performance
27:40 – The sculptor metaphor: the life template is already inside you
29:00 – Final message: you’re not broken—you’re becoming

#SpiritualDepression #SoulAwakening #DarkNightOfTheSoul #ShadowIntegration #PersonalTransformation #CreativeFog #InnerAlchemy #XavierDagba #EnheartenedPodcast

In a world that often feels unsafe, uncertain, and chaotic, how do you cultivate true inner safety without abandoning your essence?

In this solo episode of ENHEARTENED, I guide you through a deep exploration of shadow safety vs. soul safety two radically different ways we relate to our internal world when faced with external threat or emotional pain.

You’ll learn:

What shadow safety is and why it feels like safety but costs you wholeness

Why abandoning yourself has become your default coping strategy (and how to stop)

The truth about nervous system capacity, vulnerability, and self-protection

How to start building sovereign safety: the kind that doesn’t shut down your heart

How to stay rooted in presence, even when fear, shame, or grief arise

This is a conversation for anyone seeking embodied power, emotional resilience, and the courage to live open-hearted in a polarized world.

🎧 Listen until the end for a step-by-step blueprint to begin cultivating soul safety in your daily life.

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00:00 – Intro: Why safety needs to be redefined

01:40 – Shadow safety: The illusion of protection

05:50 – The fragmentation trade-off and dissociation

09:15 – The myth of control and nervous system reactivity

12:40 – Soul safety: Safety rooted in presence, not protection

17:30 – Real life examples: shadow vs. soul safety in action

23:10 – How to build sovereign safety (step-by-step)

30:45 – Staying with emotion without adding meaning

33:20 – Final questions for reflection + integration

34:30 – Outro + how to stay connected

 #ShadowWork #SoulSafety #InnerSafety #SelfAbandonment #TraumaHealing #NervousSystem #SovereignSelf #EmotionalResilience #EnheartenedPodcast #XavierDagba

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Dissolve the hidden forces that dim your light & mute your voice. Become unapologetically expressed.
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In this solo episode of ENHEARTENED, I speak directly to the hearts of those who are craving to be seen, but still find safety in hiding.

We explore why shining can feel terrifying, why your nervous system may still trust your shadow more than your light, and how true visibility begins with inner reconciliation.

This episode is an offering for visionaries, creatives, coaches, and quiet revolutionaries who long to share their voice, their truth, and their light… but feel blocked by shame, fear, or fragmentation.

It is also for those who don't want a stage but just long to bring more of their truth in their lives.

You’ll be guided through:

The 5 core fears that keep us hidden

Why visibility triggers shadow material

The difference between expression and performance

What visibility hangovers reveal about your inner child

Why shame is the root of fragmentation

How to rewire safety to include your brightness

Practical prompts to reclaim your voice

The truth about readiness: it’s not about perfection—it’s about devotion

We end this journey with a powerful invitation: the path to full expression is not about being louder or more polished—it’s about becoming congruent with your truth.

If you’re ready to stop abandoning yourself and start trusting your light, SEEN is your rite of passage. Join here: www.xavierdagba.com/seen2

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00:00 Intro – Do you trust your shadow more than your light?
01:15 The paradox of visibility and the shadow
03:45 Why we fear being seen—even when we crave it
05:00 Childhood roots of the visibility wound
06:15 Vulnerability hangovers & somatic memory
08:00 Expression beyond social media: living "I am here"
10:00 The 5 fears that keep you hidden (humiliation, alienation, loss, persecution, death)
13:00 The hidden cost of staying hidden: self-abandonment
15:00 A personal story of shame & silencing creativity
19:00 How repression turns into projection
21:00 Signs you're still dimming your light
23:00 Your body keeps the score: somatic recalibration for visibility
25:00 Expression vs. performance: where are you speaking from?
27:00 Daily prompts to reclaim your voice
28:00 When I chose visibility over fear: my 2018 turning point
30:00 Letting go of the shadow career
32:00 The holy friction of self-revelation
34:00 Readiness is devotion—not perfection
36:00 What if your light could be your safest place?
38:00 The holy defiance that liberates you
40:00 Seen is not a performance—it's becoming
42:00 Undoing inherited hiding & building somatic safety
43:30 What to do if you're scared but called

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