In a recent episode of the You World Order Showcase podcast, host Jill Hart interviewed Rosalyn Rourke, a coach, author, and former psychotherapist. Rosalyn shared her personal story of transformation, navigating profound grief, and finding truth through non-duality.

Her life’s work now centers around helping others break free from old thought patterns and embrace inner peace.

This blog post delves into the insights Rosalyn shared during the interview, offering wisdom on how to navigate life's challenges with grace and resilience.

Retiring from Psychotherapy and Embracing Change

Rosalyn’s journey began in psychotherapy, where she spent years helping clients heal emotionally.

However, she decided to retire at 76, not because of dissatisfaction, but to care for her mother and focus on her family, including her new grandson.

But life threw an unexpected challenge her way when her second daughter, Melissa, passed away suddenly.

Grieving such a loss would be a monumental task for anyone, and Rosalyn faced the traditional stages of grief—denial, anger, depression—head-on.

Discovering a Moment of Unexpected Okayness

While working through her grief, Rosalyn encountered something unexpected: a moment of deep peace, a state she describes as "okayness."

This wasn’t the conventional "acceptance" that grief stages lead toward; instead, it was a profound realization of being at peace, even while still feeling her daughter’s loss.

The societal expectation for grieving mothers to remain in perpetual sorrow conflicted with Rosalyn's new emotional state, but she couldn’t deny the truth of her experience.

She describes this "okayness" as something deeper than fleeting emotional relief. It became a foundation she could rely on, a deeper sense of being that stayed with her regardless of external circumstances.

The Power of Non-Duality: Letting Go of Old Patterns

Rosalyn’s work is anchored in the ancient spiritual concept of non-duality, which teaches that life is not divided into opposites like good and bad, right and wrong.

Instead, non-duality encourages acceptance of everything as it is, without judgment. This philosophy helped Rosalyn reframe her grief and eventually led her to share this path with her clients.

Central to Rosalyn’s teachings is the idea that thoughts and feelings are not facts—they are transient, much like passing clouds.

When we stop attaching to them and recognize them as temporary, we free ourselves from much of the suffering they can cause. Rosalyn’s experience after Melissa’s passing illustrates this principle: though her feelings of loss remained, they didn’t define her state of being.

Challenging the Belief in Unworthiness

Rosalyn also explores how the belief in unworthiness keeps many people trapped in negative thought patterns. She calls this "imagined unworthiness" because it is based on false narratives, we’ve internalized about ourselves.

This imagined state leads people to believe they are undeserving of happiness or success, making it difficult to break free from emotional pain.

In her work, Rosalyn uses the enneagram, a tool for understanding personality types, to help clients identify and release old patterns.

The enneagram provides a roadmap for personal transformation, showing individuals how to loosen the grip of limiting beliefs and explore new possibilities for themselves.

Finding Home in the Present Moment

At the heart of Rosalyn’s message is the idea of finding a sense of home within ourselves.

This "home" is not a physical place but a mental state of deep contentment and stability. It exists beyond the ever-changing thoughts and feelings that usually dictate our emotional state.

By finding this home, Rosalyn teaches, we can navigate life’s challenges with more grace and less attachment to the emotional highs and lows.

Rosalyn believes that most people have glimpsed this home, whether while driving in a calm, meditative state or in the moments before falling asleep.

The key, she says, is learning to recognize and value this state, allowing us to return to it more often, especially when life becomes overwhelming.

Embracing Leadership and Vulnerability

During the conversation, Jill shared her struggles with being called "bossy" throughout her life.

Rosalyn helped reframe this experience, explaining that what’s often seen as bossiness is actually leadership.

However, true leadership also requires vulnerability. For people who naturally take charge, learning to balance strength with vulnerability can lead to deeper connections and more meaningful relationships.

Rosalyn encourages leaders to understand that vulnerability isn’t a weakness; it’s a form of strength that opens the door to greater intimacy and understanding.

In Summary

Rosalyn Rourke’s story is a powerful example of how transformation and healing are possible, even in the face of devastating loss. Through her work, she teaches others how to navigate their emotions, challenge long-held beliefs of unworthiness, and find a sense of peace that transcends life’s challenges.

By embracing non-duality, rethinking old patterns, and reconnecting with a deeper sense of self, Rosalyn helps her clients discover the inner peace that is always available to them.

More Information

For more information about Rosalyn's work, including her coaching and glimpses of awakening sessions, visit her website at RosalynRourke.com. Rosalyn’s message is one of hope, offering the reminder that no matter the circumstances, we all have the power to find peace within ourselves.

Rosalyn Rourke - A coach & author and former psychotherapist. She works with those who are looking for the deeper meaning in life and are desiring new ways to strategize old personality habits.

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