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Ep. 011 — (Un)Learning That Grief Has A Rulebook
Have you ever wondered if you were grieving the right way?
If you cried too much—or not enough.
If you healed too slowly—or too fast.
If you looked around and asked yourself, Why am I still hurting when others seem okay already?
In this episode of Unlearning Out Loud, Kat holds space for a quiet truth many of us struggle with: grief doesn’t follow instructions. It doesn’t move on a schedule. And it was never meant to look the same for everyone.
Through personal reflections and stories of loss—of people, relationships, dreams, and moments that mattered—this episode gently unpacks the unspoken rules we internalized about grief, strength, and healing. The pressure to “be strong,” to move on quickly, or to grieve in silence often leaves us questioning ourselves instead of honoring our hearts.
In this reflection, we explore:
Why grief takes so many different shapes
How childhood messages shaped the way we believe we’re “supposed” to grieve
The importance of forgiving yourself for how your healing unfolds
Why grief is often displaced love—not weakness
And how loss doesn’t disappear, but transforms with us
This episode isn’t about fixing grief or rushing it away. It’s about softening the pressure, releasing comparison, and allowing your heart to heal in the way it knows how.
If you’re grieving something right now—a person, a relationship, a dream, or a version of your life—this is a gentle reminder: you’re not late, you’re not failing, and you’re not broken. You’re healing.
Take your time.
Care for your heart.
That is enough.
Follow Unlearning Out Loud on Spotify or Apple Podcasts so you don’t miss the next episode, and join the reflections on Instagram at @unlearning.outloud for gentle reminders and excerpts from each episode.
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By Kat H.Have you ever wondered if you were grieving the right way?
If you cried too much—or not enough.
If you healed too slowly—or too fast.
If you looked around and asked yourself, Why am I still hurting when others seem okay already?
In this episode of Unlearning Out Loud, Kat holds space for a quiet truth many of us struggle with: grief doesn’t follow instructions. It doesn’t move on a schedule. And it was never meant to look the same for everyone.
Through personal reflections and stories of loss—of people, relationships, dreams, and moments that mattered—this episode gently unpacks the unspoken rules we internalized about grief, strength, and healing. The pressure to “be strong,” to move on quickly, or to grieve in silence often leaves us questioning ourselves instead of honoring our hearts.
In this reflection, we explore:
Why grief takes so many different shapes
How childhood messages shaped the way we believe we’re “supposed” to grieve
The importance of forgiving yourself for how your healing unfolds
Why grief is often displaced love—not weakness
And how loss doesn’t disappear, but transforms with us
This episode isn’t about fixing grief or rushing it away. It’s about softening the pressure, releasing comparison, and allowing your heart to heal in the way it knows how.
If you’re grieving something right now—a person, a relationship, a dream, or a version of your life—this is a gentle reminder: you’re not late, you’re not failing, and you’re not broken. You’re healing.
Take your time.
Care for your heart.
That is enough.
Follow Unlearning Out Loud on Spotify or Apple Podcasts so you don’t miss the next episode, and join the reflections on Instagram at @unlearning.outloud for gentle reminders and excerpts from each episode.