We all need something that comforts us. If you don't have someone, something, or some place — you MUST find one. Having a source of comfort allows one to handle uncomfortable moments. Just like the song "Turn! Turn! Turn!" says, "There is a season (Turn, Turn, Turn), and a time to every purpose under Heaven" — there is a time to be a "tough guy or gal" and a time to not be. Being kind, compassionate, loving, thoughtful, and considerate, does NOT make one any less tough. In fact, embracing those traits makes one even stronger — stronger mentally, physically, and spiritually. Having a comfort zone is one of the ways you can deal with being uncomfortable. No need to "act" tough. True strength comes from within when you own your space. A peaceful warrior is a good soul — a good person — one who doesn't care what others think about them.