Married and Connected

Ep 109: How to Apologize Well, Repair In and After Conflict, and Reconnect


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Ever felt stuck in that awkward post-fight silence with your spouse, unsure of how to make things right? Or maybe you're the one who always apologizes first… or the one who never saw healthy repair modeled and genuinely doesn’t know what to do.

In this powerful episode of Married and Connected, certified marriage coach Kameran Thompson Al-Areqi takes you deep into the science, the soul, and the skill of apologizing. From Dr. John Gottman's research on repair to Biblical truths about forgiveness, this episode offers a complete roadmap for what to say, how to say it, and how to reconnect after conflict.

You’ll learn:

  • Why most people never truly apologize (and what to do about it)

  • What a real apology looks like using the 5-Finger Apology framework

  • How unforgiveness creates emotional walls—and how to dismantle them

  • What to say when your spouse never apologizes or expects you to always go first

  • Why “rising above it” isn’t the same as forgiveness (and could actually lead to contempt)

Whether you're newly married or 20 years in, this episode is packed with practical strategies, real-life examples, and step-by-step language to help you repair with confidence and compassion.


🛠 Resources Mentioned:

  • Connected & Committed Self-Study Course → Connected & Committed: A 6-Week Blueprint for a Stronger Marriage

  • 1:1 Coaching with Kameran → My website

  • Gottman’s Card Deck App

  • Scripture reference: Matthew 6:14-15


📣 Ready to Repair Your Marriage?
If this episode hit home, I’d love to support you deeper. Join me inside Connected & Committed—a 6-week blueprint for building a stronger, more emotionally safe marriage. Learn the skills that help couples reconnect faster and fight fairer.

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👉 Learn more at www.recognizingpotential.com

💬 Let’s Connect!
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