Are you struggling with emotional reactions that surprise even you? Do certain people or situations consistently set you off, and you wish they didn't? In this solo episode, Coach Mande dives deep into one of the most overlooked aspects of ADHD success: emotional maturity - and why it's a set of learnable skills that can transform your life.

In this episode, we discuss:

• What emotional maturity actually is (and why it's NOT about being calm all the time or never reacting)
• The surprising research on ADHD and emotional development delays—and why you're not behind, you're just on a different timeline
• How to recognize the difference between "emotional childhood" (reacting from old patterns) and "emotional adulthood" (responding with intention)
• Why your parenting struggles might actually be about YOUR emotional maturity, not your child's behavior
• The truth about growing up with emotional chaos—and how to break the cycle without blame
• The E.A.S.Y. Framework for building emotional maturity with ADHD: 
  • Evaluate: Understanding yourself without judgment
  • Awareness: Noticing thoughts, feelings, and patterns so you can respond instead of react
  • Systems & Skills: Supporting yourself with practical tools and emotional regulation strategies
  • You Show Up: Taking imperfect action and building maturity through consistency, not perfection
• How building emotional maturity reduces avoidance, rejection sensitivity, spiraling, and people-pleasing—while increasing self-trust and intentional living

Mande shares personal moments where she's shown great emotional maturity and moments where she definitely hasn't—and why that's completely normal for ADHD brains. She also unpacks groundbreaking research from Frontiers in Human Neuroscience showing that children with ADHD consistently perform emotionally like peers 1-3 years younger, and what that means for adults navigating relationships, parenting, and personal growth.

Key Takeaway: You're not broken. You're not behind. You're learning skills most people were never taught. Emotional maturity grows when you make small choices that support your future self—and you can step into emotional adulthood at any age.

Resources Mentioned:

• Dr. Russell Barkley's research on ADHD emotional delays
• Study from Frontiers in Human Neuroscience (500+ children with ADHD)
• Episode 110: Full E.A.S.Y. Framework deep dive
• Weekly ADHD Newsletter: learntothrivewithadhd.com/weekly

Ready to build emotional maturity and make ADHD easier? Book a free coaching consultation with Coach Mande at learntothrivewithadhd.com/services

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