Club Thrive: The Podcast

Ep 12: The 4 Steps To Stopping A Negative Thought Cycle So You Feel Empowered For The Future

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If you’re a high achieving, ambitious person you’ll also probably be your own harshest critic. Me too! I get it. Its a bl**dy nightmare isn’t it 😂. Jokes aside it’s not fun - last week for the first time in ages I felt the awful feelings of self judgement that I’ve not felt in a while after making a really dumb mistake. FYI there are just a few swear words in here


When you first realise a mistake you might experience an immediate reaction or feeling. This is because there isn’t a space between your thoughts and the emotions that follow, which is why you then also get stuck in that feedback loop in your brain 


You also can then stop overanalysing all of your choices to create space/distance between them, they’ll feel lighter/less “BIG”


The 4 steps to help with this are 


  1. STOP - say it out loud if it helps. You need to create a pause, a circuit breaker 
  2. Check in with your environment in the real world, to get out of your head. Where are you? What can you see, hear, smell, feel, taste?
  3. Challenge the truth in your mind - we are very good at creating stories about ourself. Find proof that helps to challenge the negative loops and prove to your own self of how capable you are outside of the mistake 
  4. Decide how you want to feel and focus on that. Some of my faves are using uplifting music, exercise, getting out of the environment I discovered the error in, avoiding hiding my emotions too much in food and drink 


    5. I really encourage you to be kind to yourself - we are all human and making mistakes is how we grow. Some mistakes might take longer to overcome but with practise you’ll get better at not feeling so awful every time they happen


    If they’re mistakes that have happened in creative spaces, like a rehearsal room or meeting/audition try to flip the narrative on the experience so it doesn’t massively bash your confidnece and self belief>


    And if someone has made you feel in the wrong but it’s their opinion, then of course you can listen but don’t assume they know better than you 


    Creatively opinions are based on our own belief systems / and the most important thing is you continue to feel safe to explore even if that means getting things wrong at times


    No one is perfect, no one has all the answers, and no one has the right to make you feel bad about yourself just because they have a different opinion


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