Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:30 Have you ever felt the urge to play it cool?

01:38 Why do we feel like we have to be easy going?

02:00 How playing it cool is an attempt at self-protection

03:25 How it starts to create problems in dating

05:15 Anxiety kicks up when you're trying to hard to be laid back

06:30 At what point are you trying to control your image more than build connection?

07:30 It's easy to fall into a relationship with the wrong person

09:00 Side tangent- How this can create situationships & the ramifications of it

10:30 The pace of dating vs. playing it cool

11:30 How to create that genuine connection

13:50 Side tangent #2 - The landscape of dating in 2026

16:50 Don't make dating harder on yourself by trying to play it cool

17:20 How this pattern starts

19:25 Heartbreak to Healing Series

22:45 Outro Links:

One-on-One 8 Week Coaching:

https://www.shiftyourstory.net/get-over-your-ex-8-week-program

Heartbreak to Healing 5 Day Series:

https://www.shiftyourstory.net/theheartbreaktohealingseries

Connection Call:

https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall

Website:

www.shiftyourstory.net