In this episode:

• Why we idealize past relationships, especially after a breakup.
• The impact of selective memory and how it keeps you stuck.
• Practical steps to shift focus from the ex to building a fulfilling life.

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro 02:30 My own experience with romanticizing an ex  03:00 What we're covering in this episode  04:00 What is romanticization  05:00 Why we romanticize exes 05:27 Protecting the idea of the relationship and what it could of been 06:05 Hormonal changes  08:10 Getting nostalgic about your ex 09:00 Getting different perspectives from people you trust 11:40 Giving yourself a reality check 13:40 Our brain is trying to keep us safe in the familiar  14:50 Try to protect our sense of identity 18:05 Fear of being alone 19:00 How media & society perpetuate the idea of "the one who got away" 21:45 The cost of romantisizing your ex 23:45 How to start romanticizing your own life  29:30 My top piece of advice for romanticizing your own life 31:30 Free Masterclass - Heartbreak to Hapinnes (Your blueprint to feeling better after a breakup) 32:40 Outro

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

Links

Join The Heartbreak to Happiness Masterclass HERE

Get the "Feel Your Feelings Guide" HERE

Interested in working with me one-on-one? If you are interested in getting private coaching from me then the next step is to schedule a connection call with me. On this call I'll learn more about you and your goals. If we both feel it would be a good fit, then we will get you started with one-on-one coaching. Book a connection call here ⬇️ https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall

Breakup Workshop: This workshop breaks down my moving on method (the direct steps you can take to get over your ex and move forward). Workbook included. Get the workshop here ⬇️ Over It: Breakup Workshop

Learn more about me and my work ⬇️ Website: www.shiftyourstory.net

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In this episode we cover:

• How to navigate a breakup based on your attachment style.
• What to do when old patterns come up in new relationships.
• How to know when you’re ready to date again.
• How knowing your attachment style helps you navigate your breakup.
• How to use your attachment style to your advantage in future relationships.

01:34 what advice would you give each of the attachment styles to get through a breakup?

02:30 Anxious attachment

03:00 Avoidant attachment

03: 26 Disorganized attachment

04:00 Attachment patterns coming up as you get back out into the dating world

07:00 How to move through the feeling that you should be “over this by now”

10:00 We are all human

10:55 Speaking to the avoidant parts of ourselves that want to do it alone

13:00 Getting your needs met

15:40 How to notice when old attachment patterns are coming up

18:15 Sometimes the things that aren’t good for us feel good

20:45 How to apply what you know about your attachment style to dating & relationships

23:00 Taking the pressure off of yourself and getting clear on your values

23:55 How to know when you’re ready to date again

29:30 What’s the point of doing the inner work?

32:58 Jessica’s Info

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lucy.m.price/ About our guest:Jessica Da Silva is a Licensed Mental Health Therapist and Attachment Coach who empowers individuals to free themselves from attachment patterns that sabotage their relationships by teaching them actionable skills to relate to themselves and others more authentically and effectively. Not only does she talk the talk, but she also devotes her online platforms to sharing her personal journey in becoming securely attached and making these topics more relatable and encouraging.

https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/

https://www.instagram.com/thejessicadasilva

In this episode we cover:

• The most common financial mistakes people make in relationships that affect them in breakups.
• Ways to protect yourself financially before, during, and after a breakup.
• How to prepare financially for a breakup or divorce.
• How to financially prepare to leave an unsafe relationship.
• Advice to thrive, not just survive, financially after a breakup.

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro 00:25 All things finances before, during, and after a breakup 01:20 Most common mistakes people make in a realtionship that would affect them after a breakup 02:30 Falling into dynamics with a partner around finances 3:30 How important is it to have some sense of financial independence in a relationship? 5:50 What causes people to not discuss finances? 07:00 The impact of our family history on our relationship with our finances  08:00 How to prepare to get out of a relationship financially without it being financial infedelitly  10:10 If you know a seperation is coming, how can you start to prepare financially? 11:50 The power of awareness and communication 12:30 When someones afraid to look at their financial situation, how can they get started? 14:20 What are some ways to start saving when you are in an abusive situation? 15:10 Red flags for financial abuse  17:12 Family/partnership decisions that impact your personal financial life 18:35 What you can do to support yourself when you make big financial/career decisions 21:40 Practical financial steps to take as you begin separating  25:00 The power of choice  26:00 Getting creative and flexible when choosing what to do next 27:30 The power of support 29:00 How to thrive financially after a breakup 30:00 The power of building wealth 31:00 Where you can connect with Leah

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

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Interested in working with me one-on-one? If you are interested in getting private coaching from me then the next step is to schedule a connection call with me. On this call I'll learn more about you and your goals. If we both feel it would be a good fit, then we will get you started with one-on-one coaching. Book a connection call here ⬇️ https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lucy.m.price/ About our guest:

Leah Hadley will tell you she is no stranger to financial challenges-she became an adoptive parent to three overnight, got divorced and built her business from the ground up to name a few. These were times when careful financial planning was critical to her peace of mind. Now an award-winning financial planner, sought-after speaker, Accredited Financial Counselor (AFC), and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), Leah is the founder of Intentional Wealth Partners and Intentional Divorce Solutions as well as the host of the Intentional Divorce Insights podcast. She uses her knowledge and nearly 20 years of experience to help her clients make wise financial decisions so they can feel confident in their financial future.

www.intentionaldivorce.com https://www.instagram.com/watchherthrive/

 

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro 00:30 Meet out guest- Ilana Dunn Soloman! 1:15 How do you know when you're ready to start dating again? 03:00 It's okay to try it out and see how you feel  4:00 Everyone's journey is different 5:45 What do you do when your friends and family are pressuring you to date again? 7:00 As a friend, what can you can do to help your friend through a breakup? 08:15 Common dating mistakes when you start dating after a breakup 08:30 You're actually in a great position  09:45 Getting attached to first dates  10:15 It's okay to slow down and let yourself enjoy the dating process 11:30 Enjoy the new relationship energy  12:00 What do you do when you feel overwhelmed with dating? 12:15 Focus on the facts 13:50 Human's love to make stories 14:50 If the story you're telling yourself doesn't feel good-tell yourself a different story  15:15 How we feed into overwhelm  16:35 The people we love have their own stories too 17:15 The power of discernment  18:00 Trust your gut 18:15 What to do when you're afraid of getting hurt again? 19:45 They want you to be the right person for them 20:45 The power of vulnerability 21:20 What do you do if you're afraid of getting rejected? 21:30 Rejection is redirection  21:45 Rejection isn't about you 22:50 It's not about you 23:20 "I'm looking for a guy in finance" 25:00 In hindisight you may be glad it didn't work out 25:15 You deserve to be with someone who wants to be you  26:15 What are some green flags when you are dating? 29:30 Can you talk about things? Can you navigate life's challenges as partners? 30:00 The beginning should be easy  30:45 Someone being hard to get doesn't make them more desirable  31:15 Can I be myself with this person? 32:00 Do you feel like you have to adjust yourself? 32:30 Where to find Ilana! 33:10 Outro 

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

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Interested in working with me one-on-one? If you are interested in getting private coaching from me then the next step is to schedule a connection call with me. On this call I'll learn more about you and your goals. If we both feel it would be a good fit, then we will get you started with one-on-one coaching. Book a connection call here ⬇️ https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall

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Subject: Question-Podcast Email: [email protected] About our guest:

Ilana Dunn is a Millennial and Gen Z dating expert and lifestyle content creator. Following a successful tenure running Hinge's social media, Ilana embarked on her entrepreneurial journey, founding her own thriving podcast and social media presence. With a genuine “We’re all in this together vibe” as highlighted by The New York Times, Ilana’s content empowers her audience to navigate life's complexities with empathy, authenticity, and relatability. 

Seeing Other People Podcast: Seeing Other People - Transforming Heartbreak Into Personal Growth IG: @Ilana.dunn Tiktok: @Ilana.dunn

In this episode I am joined by Jewel Hohman and we are diving into how to make and maintain friendships when you are going through the emotional ups and downs of a breakup. 

• How to build relationships when you are struggling emotionally with a breakup.
• Practical ways to cultivate friendship after a breakup.
• How to know when a friendship is worth investing more into or whether it would be better for you to walk away.
• How society and social media are isolating us and the effect that has on ourselves and our relationships.

Time Stamps:

00:00 intro

02:00 How to make friends when you’re struggling emotionally

04:50 Avoiding other people when you’re going through a hard time

07:30 Numbing out emotions through tech

09:30 You don’t have to show up perfectly

12:30 How we’re undermining the value of friendship

14:50 Were not meant to be alone

16:00 What can I do to connect today?

17:00 What you can do to make friends when it feels intimidating and hard

17:40 You are offering someone a gift

19:50 What you can do if you’re not feeling a lot of confidence right now

23:00 The importance of going to a consistent meet up

25:00 Creating a life counsel

28:00 How to decide what relationships to invest in and what relationships to let go of

32:00 Diversifying investments in friendship

35:00 Where you can connect with Jewel

37:00 Outro

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

Lucy's Links

Interested in working with me one-on-one? If you are interested in getting private coaching from me then the next step is to schedule a connection call with me. On this call I'll learn more about you and your goals. If we both feel it would be a good fit, then we will get you started with one-on-one coaching. Book a connection call here ⬇️ https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall

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Jewel's Links:

About: Jewel Hohman is a future therapist, an overly certified coach, and a human-connection obsessed, imperfect human. With a degree in psychology and sociology, a pending master’s, and over 4000 hours coaching on connection, Jewel combines Evidence-Based Self Help and the latest connection research to help people feel delightfully authentic in social settings and make their friendships more meaningful. In a post-pandemic world where millions are lonelier and more disconnected than ever, this conversation is urgent but mostly ignored, and Jewel is on a mission to change that!

IG: @connectionwithjewel Website: Jewelhohman.com

Podcast:  https://open.spotify.com/episode/4TpCuBcQW0xomixY4eR9KI?si=16b0497144c8492d

In this episode I am joined by Karen McMahon! We are breaking down how to navigate a high conflict divorce so that you come out the other side feeling clear in what you want next and confident in your ability to move forward. Timestamps

00:00 Intro

01:30 Main contributors to high conflict divorce

05:30 Who is responsible for high conflict divorce?

05:55 What can you do to look after yourself when you are in a high conflict divorce

08:00 The power of choosing yourself

09:20 The power of awareness & reflection in advocating for yourself

11:00 What patterns from the marriage can indicate in the divorce

12:00 Discomfort does not mean don’t do it

14:00 Surround yourself with people who support you loving yourself

16:30 People change

17:00 The fear of ending a relationship when you were together for years

19:00 The fear of the idea of something vs. the thing itself

21:00 How our thoughts impact us

22:00 What is the story that I’m telling myself?

23:00 The power of action

25:00 Initial steps you can take to move forward

28:30 Ways to minimize conflict when you are still living with your ex

30:00 Align your actions with your words

31:00 Connect with Karen

31:30 Outro

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

Lucy's Links

Interested in working with me one-on-one? If you are interested in getting private coaching from me then the next step is to schedule a connection call with me. On this call I'll learn more about you and your goals. If we both feel it would be a good fit, then we will get you started with one-on-one coaching. Book a connection call here ⬇️ https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall

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Karen's Links

Website: journeybeyonddivorce.com  Podcast: Journey Beyond Divorce IG: Journey_beyond_divorce Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/journey-beyond-divorce/

About Karen: Karen McMahon is a High Conflict Divorce Strategist, Certified Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce.  She began divorce coaching in 2010 after recognizing that the pain of her divorce led her on a transformational journey into a powerful and unexpected new life. Karen leads a national team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear and confident as they navigate divorce.  Karen is the host of the acclaimed Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, and co-author of ‘Stepping out of Chaos: Turning Pain to Possibility” and creator of JBD’s exclusive Elite Divorce Concierge Program.

If you are feeling like you have a lot of emotional charge around your breakup, and you feel like it shouldn't be as strong as it is, then this episode is going to explain some of the reasons why you may be having difficulty. Time Stamps:

00:00 Intro

00:00 Why am I still so emotional about the breakup?

01:50 3 reasons why you may be hung up on your ex

2:15 Stages of grief

03:30 intellectualizing your emotions vs feeling your emotions

06:00 Feel your feelings guide

07:00 What story are you investing in?

09:30 What story would feel better?

09:40 Making meaning out of your emotions

12:00 You can feel differently more quickly than you think

13:10 Outro

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

Links

Get the "Feel Your Feelings Guide" HERE

Interested in working with me one-on-one? If you are interested in getting private coaching from me then the next step is to schedule a connection call with me. On this call I'll learn more about you and your goals. If we both feel it would be a good fit, then we will get you started with one-on-one coaching. Book a connection call here ⬇️ https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall

Breakup Workshop: This workshop breaks down my moving on method (the direct steps you can take to get over your ex and move forward). Workbook included. Get the workshop here ⬇️ Over It: Breakup Workshop

Learn more about me and my work ⬇️ Website: www.shiftyourstory.net

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If you feel like it's taking you a long time to get over your ex then this episode is going to break down some reasons why that may be the case and what you can do to speed up the process.

Timestamps

00:00 Intro

00:25 It feels like it’s taking you a long time to get over your ex - 5 things to consider

00:45 Getting stuck in a rut around the breakup

01:24 1) What narrative are you buying into?

03:36 2) intellectualizing your feelings vs. feeling your feelings

04:55 3) Are you creating enough space between you and your ex?

06:30 4) Are you taking steps forward towards the results you want or are you waiting for yourself to feel differently before you take action?

08:35 5) What is your identity outside of the relationship

10:37 Reflecting on these 5 things, what is one thing you can do to help yourself move forward?

11:33 How to get started with coaching

12:05 Outro

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

Links

Interested in working with me one-on-one? If you are interested in getting private coaching from me then the next step is to schedule a connection call with me. On this call I'll learn more about you and your goals. If we both feel it would be a good fit, then we will get you started with one-on-one coaching. Book a connection call here ⬇️ https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall

Breakup Workshop: This workshop breaks down my moving on method (the direct steps you can take to get over your ex and move forward). Workbook included. Get the workshop here ⬇️ Over It: Breakup Workshop

Learn more about me and my work ⬇️ Website: www.shiftyourstory.net

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If you're wondering whether you are ready to date again, then hit play. I'm breaking down 5 things you can look for to indicate that you are ready to date again.  I also asked my community over on instagram for what they look for in themselves to decide if they are ready to date again and I loved hearing the responses. So much so that I wanted to share some of them here because I think they would be useful for you. Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:23 Beginning the conversation - “How do you know when you’re ready to date again?”

01:33 Does feeling awkward mean I’m not ready or does it just mean that it’s new?

2:21 You’ve processed your emotions and the grief

03:44 You want to get to know people for who they are. You aren’t comparing them to your ex.

04:51 You aren’t try to get back at your ex or make them jealous 07:17 You know what you are looking for in a relationship

08:23 You want to start dating again

09:40 Other indicators that you are ready to date again from listeners

11:38 Instagram Poll- How long did it take you to feel ready to date again after your breakup?

13:10 Instagram Poll- What’s stopping you from feeling ready to date again?

14:50 Testing the waters to see if you’re ready to date again

16:55 - Coaching to help you get over your ex, heal from heartbreak, and move forward 17:26 Outro

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

Links

Interested in working with me one-on-one? If you are interested in getting private coaching from me then the next step is to schedule a connection call with me. On this call I'll learn more about you and your goals. If we both feel it would be a good fit, then we will get you started with one-on-one coaching. Book a connection call here ⬇️ https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall

Breakup Workshop: This workshop breaks down my moving on method (the direct steps you can take to get over your ex and move forward). Workbook included. Get the workshop here ⬇️ Over It: Breakup Workshop

Learn more about me and my work ⬇️ Website: www.shiftyourstory.net

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Questions featured in this episode:

• How to deal with the fear of uncertainty & having to start from scratch? - Why do I feel a sense of hyper sexual energy after my breakup three months ago? - How to interact with ex’s new partner without feeling bad about myself? I work with them - Why do avoidant partners act lovingly one second then discard? - Ex is singer/songwriter airs dirty laundry through song, calling it art. Mostly lies. The emaressment is real, social anxiety 100% now. Coping strategies? Timestamps:

  00:23 Intro

  01:40 How do you deal with the fear and uncertainty of having to start from scratch after a breakup?

  04:02 Reframing breakups as opportunities

  05:49 Why do I feel a sense of hyper sexual energy after my breakup three months ago? 09:32 If you go no contact after a breakup, what’s the best way to try and initiate contact again?

  12:42 How to interact with an ex’s new parter without feeling bad about yourself when you work with them

  17:32 Why do avoidant partners act lovingly one second and then discard?

  20:46 My ex is a singer songwriter and airs out dirty laundry, do you have any coping strategies to deal with the social anxiety?

  28:20 How to ask questions for the next Q&A

  28:54 How to get started with coaching

  29:56 Outro

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

Links

Interested in working with me one-on-one? If you are interested in getting private coaching from me then the next step is to schedule a connection call with me. On this call I'll learn more about you and your goals. If we both feel it would be a good fit, then we will get you started with one-on-one coaching. Book a connection call here ⬇️ https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall

Breakup Workshop: This workshop breaks down my moving on method (the direct steps you can take to get over your ex and move forward). Workbook included. Get the workshop here ⬇️ Over It: Breakup Workshop

Learn more about me and my work ⬇️ Website: www.shiftyourstory.net

Email me your questions!

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