Breakups and Breakthroughs

Timestamps

00:00 Intro

03:00 How lonliness shows up in relationships

06:30 What can we do when we feel lonely in our relationship

08:30 "I feel like I shouldn't have to ask"

10:00 Should I end the relationship?

11:24 Closing thoughts

12:00 How you can work with me

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00:00 Intro

01:45 What are boundaries?

04:50 Your boundaries don't have to be watered down or pallatable

06:00 The fear (and power) of direct communication

07:00 Boundaries are not tests

08:00 What if they don't like my boundary?

11:15 Boundaries vs. Expectations vs. Standards

12:20 Boundaries are not a get out of jail free card

14:30 Boundaries are part of healthy relationships

15:20 Boundaries improve connection

15:50 What do you do if someone crosses your boundary?

18:00 Boundaries are not a punishment

20:00 You decide how you respond when someone crosses a boundary

22:00 Ways you can work with me

23:00 Outro

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00:00 Intro

00:30 It's not about going back to who you were. It's about building something new.

01:30 You are always changing

2:30 What does it look like to meet who you are now?

04:00 Where did you make yourself smaller?

5:00 Confidence comes from action

8:00 Where are there opportunities to do more of what you love?

11:30 Find areas of your life you can grow in

13:00 External change vs. Internal change

15:00 You don't need to change everything

16:30 Ways you can work with me

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00:00 Intro

02:00 Sometimes you're not grieving your ex, but your shared social life

03:40 It is harder making friends as an adult

05:00 Become a regular somewhere

06:00 Make the first move

08:00 Diversify friendship needs

09:15 Who can you go deeper with?

10:00 What do you want your social life to look like?

10:50 30 Day friendship challenge

12:00 Questions to journal on

13:30 Did something help you make friends? Share with me!

14:30 Outro

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

02:00 Humans hate unfinished stories

03:00 You're never going to get inside your ex's head

04:20 "If I understand, I'll feel better"

04:50 Closure is not getting an explanation

06:50 Ask yourself questions that will move you forward

08:30 It's easy to spiral in the what ifs

10:40 Don't get lost in the imaginary

11:20 You can't make sense of your real life from your imaginary scenarios

12:00 You have to grieve the relationship that existed

13:00 Missing your ex doesn't mean you should still be with them

13:15 You may never get the apology you're looking for

14:50 Their lack of accountability does not disqualify your experience

15:30 Closure practice

17:20 Closure doesn't mean you approve of what happened

18:00 Closure comes from acceptance

19:00 How to schedule a connection call

19:50 Outro

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:45 My own dating anxiety

02:20 The goal isn't to never have anxiety, it's this...

02:57 Seperate what you know from what you're assuming

04:30 What is the story you're telling yourself?

05:30 Their feelings are not yours to manage

09:30 Is there actually something for you to do here?

10:30 Not all tension in dating is bad!

11:00 Slow down- you don't need to have it all figured out

11:50 You don't need to know what every moment means

13:00 Build a life that doesn't require dating going well

14:00 How much emotional power are you giving to another person?

16:20 Recap

Outro

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

02:00 Chemistry vs. compatiblity

03:00 Chemistry can tell you who you are attracted to- but not if you should build a life with them

04:20 Sign #1 You want the same kind of life

05:45 Sign #2 You feel emotionally safe

06:50 Sign #3 They are consistent

07:35 Sign #4 You can handle conflict

08:55 Sign #5 You like who you are around them

09:35 Sign #6 The effort is mutual

10:30 Sign #7 You don't have to convince yourself

12:40 Recap of 7 signs

14:30 Please leave a review or 5 stars!

15:20 Schedule a connection call with me

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

02:30 Why it is more challenging to form relationships now

04:00 Feeling lonely and isolated in relationships

05:00 Inconvenience vs. incompatibility

07:30 Relationships require us to put in effort

08:30 Give to give, recieve to recieve

09:45 Relationships are inherintely inconvenient - but that doesn't make the unecessary

10:15 If they wanted to- they would

14:25 Community as we get older

16:00 Questions to help you determine if this is an inconvenience or incompatibility

16:30 Is this inconvenience temporary or permanent?

17:00 Are both parties putting in the effort?

17:30 Are you reaping the rewards of this relationship?

18:05 Does this comprimise your values or your preferences?

18:50 Would you make this adjustment for someone you love?

19:30 Sometimes the right person requires us to figure things out

20:15 Is this someone you want to make room for?

22:00 Outro

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

02:00 You do not need to be 100% healed

02:20 Are you trying to escape a feeling or create connection

04:00 You're not ready if you're in comparison mode

05:00 How is dating funcitoning in your life?

06:20 How long should I wait?

07:20 Signs you ARE ready to date again

10:00 Dating is a great teacher

10:45 Ask yourself these 3 questions to see if you're ready to date again

12:00 Dating in your 30's+

13:45 Please leave a positive review/5 stars!

14:00 How you can work with me

15:00 Outro

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

02:00 You don't actually like them

04:00 False sense of chemistry through chasing

05:00 Uncertainty feeling like chemistry

05:30 Where does chemistry come from?

06:30 Anxious/Avoidant dynamic

08:00 Fantasy vs Reality

10:05 It's just not the relationship you actually want

10:45 You don't owe anyone attraction

12:00 Before you reject someone, ask yourself these questions

14:00 Don't force yourself

17:00 Outro

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