Breakups and Breakthroughs

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:00 Mixed messaging when it comes to breakups

02:30 Why it's important to stabalize before you consider glowing up

02:50 What's actually happening during a breakup

04:30 It's like remodeling during a hurricane

07:00 Why this backfires- It creates avoidance

07:50 Reason #2 - It creates self-judgement

09:15 Number #3 - It disconnects you from yourself

10:30 How do you stabalize?

11:45 Nervous system regulation

12:30 It's not flashy but it works- here's why

12:50 Creating closure

14:00 Creating an environment to grow

17:00 If you want to work through this step by step

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:30

02:04 The fear that keeps you stuck in relationship purgatory

03:15 Signs to keep fighting

03:20 Consistency & Kindness

05:10 Internal hesitation due to past experiences

08:15 They want to work on the relationship with you

09:45 This is a season, not a compatibility issue

12:00 Signs it's time to walk away

12:05 Chronic Confusion

13:30 Avoiding comittment conversations

14:30 You're shrinking yourself

16:00 Having the same arguments over and over

17:17 You no longer feel safe

21:45 Outro

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:30 Have you ever felt the urge to play it cool?

01:38 Why do we feel like we have to be easy going?

02:00 How playing it cool is an attempt at self-protection

03:25 How it starts to create problems in dating

05:15 Anxiety kicks up when you're trying to hard to be laid back

06:30 At what point are you trying to control your image more than build connection?

07:30 It's easy to fall into a relationship with the wrong person

09:00 Side tangent- How this can create situationships & the ramifications of it

10:30 The pace of dating vs. playing it cool

11:30 How to create that genuine connection

13:50 Side tangent #2 - The landscape of dating in 2026

16:50 Don't make dating harder on yourself by trying to play it cool

17:20 How this pattern starts

19:25 Heartbreak to Healing Series

22:45 Outro Links:

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:30 He really likes you…but he's not ready for a relationship.

02:11 What we do when we hear, "I'm not ready"

03:00 When he says he's not ready, he actually doesn't want to be in a relationship with you

03:40 He wants the benefits without the commitment

4:00 Could he genuinely not be ready for a relationship?

6:00 When someone needs a bit of time, they give context and a timeline with compassion

7:00 If someone really wants to be with you, they'll try to make something work

9:30 How this limbo affects you

10:15 If he says he's not ready- believe him

11:00 What do you want to choose for yourself?

11:20 Create emotional separation

12:00 What's the deeper fear?

13:10 You've taken space- and then he texts you

13:50 Is he reacting to losing you, or access?

15:00 What to say if he reaches out

15:50 Case study

18:00 Recap

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Timestamps:

:30 Intro

3:00 why people go on second dates

3:45 3 questions start

4:00 Question #1

5:20 What second dates should be built off of

6:30 how has this person had an affect on my safety and security?

6:47 Question #2

7:30 Did I feel a sense of curiosity and connection?

8:40 are you saying yes to someone you don't actually like?

9:50 If you're feeling burnt out from dating, up the discernment

10:11 Question #3

11:40 If you're feeling THIS, don't go on a second date…

13:13 Dating becomes more fun when you start doing THIS

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16:30 Join my 5 day heartbreak to healing series to get over your ex

17:50 Outro

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Timestamps: :30 Intro

1:30 why its so hard to move forward when you believe your ex is your soulmate

4:40 what are you making your strong feelings or experiences mean?

6:00 peaks do not make a partnership

8:00 They aren't your soulmate if they don't reciprocate

11:00 We don't need to add on the pain 12:00 How fear affects how we perceive "the one"

15:00 My take on soulmates 15:50 the downside of soulmates

18:00 you can decide your ex wasn't the one

19:20 How to get over your ex

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Timestamps:

:30 Intro

3:00 How obsessing at the start of a relationship has shown up for me

06:00 Are they getting priority position without earning it? 07:12 Become aware of your patterns

09:30 "The Chase"

10:30 The importance of loving yourself and viewing yourself as the prize 11:00 What have your patterns been in relationships?

12:20 The Halo Effect

14:00 Are you ignoring red flags or incompatibilities?

15:30 Are you filling in the gaps of who they are?

18:00 look for evidence of who they are

20:00 New relationship energy 22:00 How is urgency affecting you?

25:00 Reflections

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Timestamps:

00:30 Intro 01:40 Your attachment style isn't set in stone

03:20 A review of the attachment styles

03:45 Secure attachment style

05:30 Anxious attchment style

09:20 Avoidant attachment style

12:50 Fearful avoidant attachment style

14:50 Advice for all the attachment styles

18:00 Outro

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Timestamps:

00:30 Intro

01:00 How I've been stuck in routine lately

03:00 What I've started to change 05:30 What does it mean to "do it for the plot?"

07:00 What are you not doing in your life because it feels uncomfortable?

09:00 Don't take life so seriously

11:00 Outro

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