Breakups and Breakthroughs

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:45 Practical steps to impliment what you are learning

03:00 First scan if the information/advice is for you

03:15 How can I impliment this in small ways?

07:00 Look at the cause and the effect

09:00 How can you adjust your own decisions and actions based on what's working?

11:45 Actually plan then changes you want to make

13:30 SMART Goals

15:00 Closing thoughts

15:30 Check out the links in the show notes

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

02:20 Culture Shock

04:15 Different parts of you come online when you are in a different situation

05:00 Anchor routines- how they help ground you during times of transition

07:00 Planning helps you process, stabalize, and heal

07:30 The importance of looking after your human

09:00 Relearn who you are and what you want when you are in periods of transition

13:00 Think about how you want to do things differently moving forward

15:00 There are pros and cons to being single AND being in a relationship

19:00 If this was helpful, please rate five stars and review!

19:45 Ready to get over your ex? Check out my 8 week program in the show notes

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:30 How I fell into the self-improvment trap

03:00 The value of healing

04:00 Healing through relationships

08:00 Healing doesn't have to heavy all the time

10:00 Find balance

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:30 You know they aren't good for you...

01:20 It's not about logic

02:30 Top #3 reasons you go back to unhealthy relationships

03:00 Withdrawal

04:20 Missing someone isn't proof that they were right for you

04:40 Familiar pain feels safer than uncertainty

06:20 Attachment to what the relationship could be

07:30 How identity impacts your ability to let them go

07:40 Personal story

11:00 How emotions come into play

12:30 The power of creating space

14:00 Let the fantasy go

15:00 Replace your source of regulation

16:00 Name the pattern in real time

17:30 How you can get support this week

19:30 Please leave a review and rate 5 stars!

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Connection Call:

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:30 Why you keep wondering how long it takes to get over your ex

01:00 The myth of the timeline

03:00 Let go of the pressure of the timeline- even if it's just for the length of this episode

04:00 Identity shifts

06:10 What I'm looking at to determine how long it will take you go get over your ex

06:30 How attached you are

08:00 Creating closure

11:00 What actions are you taking?

12:00 The power of staying confused

14:30 Ditch the timeline and think about phases instead

17:35 What you can do to help yourself get over your ex

17:45 If you can- go no contact

18:20 Ditch the fantasies

18:40 Actively rebuild your identity

19:00 Process instead of repress

19:30 Get support!

21:20 If this was helpful- please leave a review & share!

22:00 Outro

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:30 When you are torn between staying or leaving

02:10 How do you figure out what's best for you?

03:00 Navigating polar opinions

03:50 These extremes are not a solution- they are a coping mechanism

04:35 Does this align with my core values?

07:30 How often are your core values being upheld?

08:40 Is this a moment or is this a pattern?

12:00 Signs it's a pattern

13:00 Where it's worth trying again

15:30 There will be ups and downs

16:40 If you still feel stuck in limbo...

17:40 Ask yourself these questions when you are stuck

19:20 Why you can't make the decision

23:40 Outro

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00:00 Intro

03:00 What is healing? Spoiler- it's not being perfect

04:00 Signs you're not healing

05:00 Awareness is important- but not enough

06:00 So what is healing?

08:10 The importance of getting honest with ourselves

12:10 What do I do next?

15:00 Healing doesn't just happen in isolation

17:30 How to chat with me

19:05 Outro

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:50 Why do we distract ourselves?

03:00 You feel more in control

05:00 Social reward

06:00 Distracting doesn't help you process

07:50 What does healing look like?

10:30 Create small pockets to be still

12:00 Get honest with yourself

12:30 Stop rushing to replace

13:40 It probably won't be comfortable at first- that's ok!

15:00 How do you know if you are healing?

16:20 If nothing else, ask yourself this question

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:30 How do revenge fantasies show up?

02:00 Eventually we will get stuck in the revenge fantasy

02:20 Why do we have revenge fantasies?

02:40 Validation

02:50 Acknowledgement and empathy

03:05 Wanting to feel chosen

03:50 Revenge fantasies are normal

05:00 Why do we get revenge fantasies?

07:00 But doesn't wanting to prove someone wrong drive you?

07:40 The cost of the fantasy

09:00 The real power move

10:00 No longer playing the game

10:15 Practical steps

14:45 Closing thoughts

16:20 Outro

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:20 My experience with 'almost relationships'

01:50 What almost relationships look like in real life

02:30 Why its so difficult to move forward from these types of relationships

02:50 Did I do something?

03:00 Potential vs. reality

03:40 Attachment

04:30 You aren't being dramatic

05:00 The hidden grief of situationships

06:06 Trap #1 - Romantacizing the Relationship

08:35 Trap #2 - Trying to decode what went wrong

10:45 Trap #3 - Waiting for closure

12:30 Trap #4 - How you are talking to yourself

13:50 Trap #5 - The story you're telling yourself

15:00 How to move forward from almost-relationships

17:35 Journaling Questions

20:00 Outro

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