Breakups and Breakthroughs

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:30 Emotionally unavailable relationships

03:00 It's not who you attract- It's whether you stick around

05:00 Relationships aren't meant to feel like gambling

05:50 Trying to rewrite the story

07:30 Holding on to potential

10:00 Checking emotional unavailability within yourself

10:40 What emotional availibility looks & feels like

11:40 How to break the pattern

14:30 How to work with me

15:30 Outro

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00:00 Intro

02:00 1 - Their words match their actions

03:50 2 - You can bring up difficult conversations

05:10 3 - Staying curious

06:30 4 - You don't feel like you're performing

07:20 5- They repair after conflict

08:30 6- You like who you are becoming

09:20 7 - They help you feel secure in the relationship

11:00 Final thoughts

12:45 How you can work with me

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:00 My attachment style

03:00 Anxious attachment & self-sabatoge

04:30 Attachment styles aren't set in stone

05:30 1. You're Dating Potential Instead of Reality

07:30 2. You're Looking for Reassurance More Than Information

08:20 3. You're Reading Into Everything

10:25 4. You're More Focused on Being Chosen Than Choosing

11:10 5. You Ignore Your Own Needs to Keep Someone Around

11:45 6. You Confuse Chemistry With Compatibility

12:22 7. You Make Their Mood About You

12:55 8. You Stay Too Long Waiting for Clarity

13:40 9. You Ignore Green Flags Because They Feel... Weird

14:30 10. You Think Love Should Remove Anxiety

17:20 How you can work with me

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

02:00 Letting go of relationship patterns that are hurting you

04:00 You're going to have to learn the language of healthy relationships

04:15 Our history affects our patterns

05:45 New relationships can teach you something new

06:20 Good relationships don't just happen

07:00 The myth that we shouldn't have to work at relationships

10:30 Re-learning your own patterns

13:00 We get comfortable with what we are used to

14:00 It takes practice

16:00 Change won't be instant

18:00 Got a topic in mind? Let me know!

18:20 How you can work with me

19:00 Outro

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:00 My journey with community up until now

03:00 There's no right or wrong way to form community

08:20 You have to be willing to invest resources into community

12:00 Use technology to help you

15:30 Patience is necessary when building community

16:00 How relationships are built

18:00 The checklist

19:00 How to work with me

19:30 Outro

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:30 The shame we place on ourselves when we stay too long

02:40 Has this been your experience?

04:20 The relationship wasn't "bad enough" to leave

08:00 Wating for something to happen so that you can leave

08:30 Ask yourself these questions

09:00 Consistent self-abandonment

10:10 The difference between medecine and poison

12:00 Journaling prompts for self-abandonment

12:45 Staying for practical reasons

16:00 Leaving the relationship will likely hurt no matter what- even when it's the right choice

17:30 The difference between acceptance and settling

19:30 Questions if you are in the limbo of staying or leaving

20:55 If this was helpful-here's how you can help!

21:00 How I can help you - Check out the show notes!

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:30 The importance of compatibility & chemistry

03:20 Why do we worship chemistry in a relationship?

05:30 You see chemistry before you see compatibility

07:00 Is it chemistry?

08:00 Attraction vs. activation of your nervous system

09:00 Chemistry doesn't screen for compatibility

10:30 So what is compatibility?

17:00 The sweet spot between compatibility & chemistry

18:00 A tool to help you figure out if the person you're with is right for you

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:30 The Impact Of A Breakup

02:00 Looking After Your Body

04:00 Your Physical Wellness Impacts Your Breakup

06:00 Emotional Regulation

07:00 Supporting Yourself Emotionally Through Your Actions or Environment

09:30 Create A New Routine

12:30 What's Helping You Through Your Breakup? Share Your Thoughts With Me!

12:50 Ways You Can Get More Support In Your Breakup

14:10 Outro

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:30 You get a text from your ex

01:30 Here's what it doesn't mean

03:00 Here's what it probably is

04:00 If they want to repair, they will lead with that

07:57 Biggest mistakes people make

09:45 What to do when you get a message from your ex

12:00 If you want to reply- think about this

14:00 Be gentle with yourself

17:00 Outro

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:25 You don't need closure to start healing

01:50 What is closure?

03:00 Closure doesn't magically get rid of your pain

04:20 Does healing require closure?

05:30 Incomplete emotional lifecycle

07:00 What happens when you don't get to complete the emotional lifecycle

08:20 Understanding a situation doesn't always create emotional regulation

09:40 There's nothing wrong with you

10:20 What happens when you try and force closure

11:40 Here's what you should to do instead

13:00 Stop negotiating with your urges

16:00 What does healing look like?

17:30 Start doing this

19:40 Outro

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