In this episode, Noah and Jamie complete the list of characteristics of emotional immaturity and how these impact relationship dynamics.  They also discuss 3 different general categories of emotional awareness and healing tools- the masculine/observational approach, the feminine/somatic approach, and the mixed approach.   

0:00 Introduction 

1:03 Sign #16 Focus on physical needs more than emotional needs 

8:49 Antidotes: Understand when you are asking too much, notice family belief systems around needs  

16:11 Sign #17 They are killjoys 

18:47 Antidote: Boundaries, communication, and “grow up” 

20:29 Sign #18 No mixed emotions, or limited emotional bandwidth 

23:13 Black and white feelings 

25:14 Signs #19, 20, 21 Simplified thinking, “Because I said so,” literal thinking (facts vs. concepts), and one-sided conversations 

30:05 Antidote: notice rigid, factual thinking, be willing to speak about feelings and concepts 

32:30 The 3 categories of emotional tools 

34:15 Observant/Masculine Emotional Processing 

42:32 Somatic/Feminine Emotional Processing 

48:53 Mixed Emotional Processing   

Resources: 

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson, PsyD (https://www.amazon.com/Adult-Children-Emotionally-Immature-Parents/dp/1626251703)  

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs)  

Gottman Institute: “Unsolvable problems” https://www.gottman.com/blog/p-is-for-problems/ 

Playlist of healing meditations: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLMnzugE-ytaQQwL1__f4ql7HbQdFkzkS2 

Atman Vichara meditation (Ramana Maharishi meditation): https://youtu.be/zP4FVywVwOg