Self-sabotage, procrastination, oh my! It happens to (probably) all of us. What can we do to fight it?

Takeaways

• Self-sabotage can show up in different ways like procrastination, being self-critical, not taking care of yourself, perfectionism, not being able to adapt to changes, and so much more.
• Doing other “productive” things when you need to do one important thing is not productive.
• Why do you self-sabotage/procrastinate? There could be many reasons.
• Find what works for you to avoid self-sabotage - your future self relying on you, future children, deadlines, accountability groups, whatever.
• When other people are relying on you, it’s often easier. Doing things for yourself is harder. We need to make ourselves worth it.
• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can be beneficial to break out of sabotaging patterns.
• Get curious about yourself.  Ask yourself questions about your state of being.
• We are programmed from a young age to think in the negative (what we can’t do, shouldn’t do, etc.)
• We can reprogram our negative thoughts but it takes consistency and a commitment to want to change those thought patterns.  If Dalia can do it with chocolate cake, you can do it with anything. 
• You can’t control other people; don’t try to anticipate their reactions all the time.
• Practice the art of self-care and self-love.  
• Try to hype yourself up every day. Find something to appreciate about even boring work days.
• Don’t be blunt-honest to be mean; know the person you’re talking to (if they can take it) or only give your real honest opinion if asked for it.
• Self-awareness is the first step to beating self-sabotage.  In the meantime, be gentle with yourself.
• Changing your habits can take weeks to years! Stay with it :D

Resources

• https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/
• https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/patients-and-families/cognitive-behavioral
• https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/self-sabotage
• https://www.choosingtherapy.com/self-sabotaging/
• http://thefordinstitute.com/selfsabotagequiz
• https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/click-here-happiness/201903/what-is-self-awareness-and-how-do-you-get-it

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