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Ep 145-Excuses vs Reasons: How to Move Forward Without Shame
Excuses vs Reasons: How to Move Forward Without Shame
Before we start, I want to say something clearly:
This is not about making you feel bad.
Not about calling you out.
Not about listing everything you’ve done “wrong.”
It’s actually the opposite.
This is about clarity.
Compassion.
And forward movement.
Excuses vs Reasons (Let’s Define It Simply)
We all use both.
That’s not the issue.
The difference is what happens after.
What Is an Excuse?
An excuse usually shows up when we’re protecting ourselves from discomfort.
Not always consciously.
Not maliciously.
But there’s often:
It sounds like:
And here’s the key:
Calling something an excuse is not about shame.
It’s about asking:
Am I protecting myself right now… or moving forward?
What Is a Reason?
A reason is grounded in reality.
It’s honest.
Specific.
And includes some form of ownership.
It sounds like:
Reasons don’t shut the door.
They adjust the path.
Where It Gets Complicated (Because It Always Does)
Sometimes:
That’s why compassion has to stay part of the conversation.
Because growth is messy.
And sometimes you’re doing your best…
while knowing you can do better.
That tension?
That’s human.
A Real-Life Example
Let’s say you want to:
You say:
“I’m exhausted. I’ll rest tonight and do it tomorrow.”
That’s a reason.
But if three weeks pass…
And it’s still “tomorrow”?
Now we pause.
Not for judgment.
For awareness.
The Biggest Difference: Ownership
Reasons say:
“This is what’s happening—and here’s how I’m adjusting.”
Excuses say:
“This is happening—so I can’t.”
And yes—sometimes you truly can’t.
Life happens.
Health.
Family.
Stress.
Finances.
Those are real.
But even then, the question becomes:
How do I move forward within this reality?
Not in spite of it.
The Messy Middle (My Favorite Place)
This is where real growth happens.
Excuses keep you stuck in the story.
Reasons help you move through it.
A Gentle Self-Check (No Judgment Allowed)
Ask yourself:
Notice:
None of those ask if you’re failing.
Because you’re not.
The Real Question Isn’t This…
It’s not:
“Is this an excuse or a reason?”
It’s:
What am I going to do next?
Because that’s where growth actually happens.
Practical Shifts You Can Start Today
Founder of Dandelion-Inc, a women’s networking community
1. Name it honestly
Not harshly. Just clearly.
2. Adjust without drama
Course correction doesn’t require criticism.
3. Keep momentum small
Tiny steps beat perfection every time.
4. Stay kind to yourself
You grow better from encouragement—not punishment.
Final Thought
You are allowed to be:
That’s not weakness.
That’s life.
Listen to the Full Episode of The Seed Podcast
This is a thoughtful, grounded conversation for anyone interested in understanding themselves on a deeper level.
You can also explore:
Leadership insights
Business growth strategies
Honest conversations about entrepreneurship
inside The Patch Community at Dandelion-Inc.
Progress isn’t about perfection.
It’s about showing up messy, brave, and real — one seed at a time.
And if you’re feeling overwhelmed, behind, or like your time is constantly slipping through your fingers, it’s not because you’re doing it wrong.
It’s because no one ever taught you how to manage time in a way that honors:
Energy
Priorities
Real life
That’s why I host my live-only Time & Productivity Session — focused on implementation, not theory.
And if you’re craving connection, accountability, and honest conversations about building something that lasts, you’ll find that inside The Patch, the Dandelion-Inc membership.
Because staying in the game?
That’s the work — and it’s enough.
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By Lisa Resnick Founder of Dandelion-Inc
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Excuses vs Reasons: How to Move Forward Without Shame
Before we start, I want to say something clearly:
This is not about making you feel bad.
Not about calling you out.
Not about listing everything you’ve done “wrong.”
It’s actually the opposite.
This is about clarity.
Compassion.
And forward movement.
Excuses vs Reasons (Let’s Define It Simply)
We all use both.
That’s not the issue.
The difference is what happens after.
What Is an Excuse?
An excuse usually shows up when we’re protecting ourselves from discomfort.
Not always consciously.
Not maliciously.
But there’s often:
It sounds like:
And here’s the key:
Calling something an excuse is not about shame.
It’s about asking:
Am I protecting myself right now… or moving forward?
What Is a Reason?
A reason is grounded in reality.
It’s honest.
Specific.
And includes some form of ownership.
It sounds like:
Reasons don’t shut the door.
They adjust the path.
Where It Gets Complicated (Because It Always Does)
Sometimes:
That’s why compassion has to stay part of the conversation.
Because growth is messy.
And sometimes you’re doing your best…
while knowing you can do better.
That tension?
That’s human.
A Real-Life Example
Let’s say you want to:
You say:
“I’m exhausted. I’ll rest tonight and do it tomorrow.”
That’s a reason.
But if three weeks pass…
And it’s still “tomorrow”?
Now we pause.
Not for judgment.
For awareness.
The Biggest Difference: Ownership
Reasons say:
“This is what’s happening—and here’s how I’m adjusting.”
Excuses say:
“This is happening—so I can’t.”
And yes—sometimes you truly can’t.
Life happens.
Health.
Family.
Stress.
Finances.
Those are real.
But even then, the question becomes:
How do I move forward within this reality?
Not in spite of it.
The Messy Middle (My Favorite Place)
This is where real growth happens.
Excuses keep you stuck in the story.
Reasons help you move through it.
A Gentle Self-Check (No Judgment Allowed)
Ask yourself:
Notice:
None of those ask if you’re failing.
Because you’re not.
The Real Question Isn’t This…
It’s not:
“Is this an excuse or a reason?”
It’s:
What am I going to do next?
Because that’s where growth actually happens.
Practical Shifts You Can Start Today
Founder of Dandelion-Inc, a women’s networking community
1. Name it honestly
Not harshly. Just clearly.
2. Adjust without drama
Course correction doesn’t require criticism.
3. Keep momentum small
Tiny steps beat perfection every time.
4. Stay kind to yourself
You grow better from encouragement—not punishment.
Final Thought
You are allowed to be:
That’s not weakness.
That’s life.
Listen to the Full Episode of The Seed Podcast
This is a thoughtful, grounded conversation for anyone interested in understanding themselves on a deeper level.
You can also explore:
Leadership insights
Business growth strategies
Honest conversations about entrepreneurship
inside The Patch Community at Dandelion-Inc.
Progress isn’t about perfection.
It’s about showing up messy, brave, and real — one seed at a time.
And if you’re feeling overwhelmed, behind, or like your time is constantly slipping through your fingers, it’s not because you’re doing it wrong.
It’s because no one ever taught you how to manage time in a way that honors:
Energy
Priorities
Real life
That’s why I host my live-only Time & Productivity Session — focused on implementation, not theory.
And if you’re craving connection, accountability, and honest conversations about building something that lasts, you’ll find that inside The Patch, the Dandelion-Inc membership.
Because staying in the game?
That’s the work — and it’s enough.