Most of my life I've lived in the Gap. You know you are in the Gap every time you measure yourself or your situation against an ideal. The ideal is where you wish you were. This leads to feelings of failure, frustration, disappointment, low self-esteem, guilt, and depression.

Being in the Gain means you measure yourself against where you were before. This approach leads to feelings of success, satisfaction, confidence, high self-esteem, enjoyment, and optimism.

When I change my thinking to the Gain, I feel more peace, happiness, joy, fulfillment, and achievement.

I am now trying to only measure myself or my situation against where I was before.

This is one of the most difficult challenges that I've faced, but it is so important.