Tonighttt is a 1st Quarter Moon 🌓

👾but.. my computer has been so unreliable all of a sudden— can’t open my zoom, my audio won’t connect, wifi is slow, not opening files— you name it, it’s been happening. ✨

💻This is a rare occurance and we’re gonna flow with it anyways. lol

Loving people = making you crazy😵‍💫

⚠️**This entire post is not in any way relevant to dysfunctional dynamics or unsafe relationships (or incompatible relationships past repair); that’s a separate set of tools and boundaries we can discuss.**

Okay, backk to people making us crazy.🙈

😫Isn’t it funny how the people we love in our relationships annoy us and drives us nuts? Like the way they chew, or how they’re always late, or how they’re not as sociable as you’d like with your family.

Or maybe you have your own mental list going 📋

🪞We often marry individuals who mirror our unmet relationship needs, usually a similiar relationship model to what we had in childhood: simply put, someone who makes us want to pull all our hair out.

Building Walls from Attachment “Programming” (Avoidant, Disorganized, Dismissive Avoidant)

📍These words are superr popular in mainstream psychology.

🍁But it’s for a good reason.

🧭it’s basically a blue-print of how we adapted our nervous system to our circumstances as a child (in order to survive).

🗺️Or later, what kind of limitations or walls (or maladaptive tools) we set for ourselves and in our relationships.

Insecure Attachment is not Permanent

🧐Just because we have some form of an insecure attachment style does not mean we can’t have healthy relationships.

🕊️Attachment style is not permanent… (though some may be subconsciously choosing it forever, and they have the free will to do so)…

🪩The brain can be rewired by working through and processing trauma with specialists you feel safe with and have a therapuetic model you’re needing.

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Im sure this isnt the last time…

we discuss trauma, attachment styles, or people driving you crazy.🙃

👀Andd links below for Attachment Style Quizzes if you’re curious about your attachment style, or would like to share the quizzes with others.

* Here’s a link to a quick, free quiz by Dr. Morgan Anderson. ( Make sure to really read the questions thoroughly, slowly.)

* She is personal coach and psychologist in Attachment Theory who focuses on relationships and dating as well as reformative cbt therapy, etc.

* Here’s a 2nd more in depth test, there’s 2 versions offered: a faster (Survey Option A) and a longer version (Survey Option B)

These quizzes are in depth, and tricky so make sure you read the questions carefully!

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Ashley Reilly

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