In this episode, I open up about my journey with softness, vulnerability, and discovering my fearful-avoidant attachment style. I share how those patterns showed up in dating—especially with one man I really wanted but pulled away from—and the self-sabotage loop I didn’t even know I was stuck in.

 

We’ll talk about what softness is (and what it’s not), how femininity is rooted in our relationship with God, and what it takes to let go of old patterns so you can attract love that actually aligns with your desires.

 

If you’ve ever found yourself retreating just when love gets close, this episode will help you see the pattern, name it, and start breaking free.

 

In this episode of The Bougie Dating Coach Podcast, Stacey explores:

🌸 What softness really means (beyond pastel colors and pretty aesthetics)

🙅🏽‍♀️ The myths around femininity and vulnerability

💔 How her fearful-avoidant attachment style led to pulling away from a man she actually wanted

🌀 The “Self-Sabotage Loop” that keeps women stuck in cycles of retreat and protection

✨ The counteractions you can take to interrupt those patterns and invite real connection

🙏🏽 Why softness is not weakness but a spiritual posture rooted in God