To see your hidden patterns, you need to intentionally build self-awareness. Question your perception. A mantra that I have adopted in my life is, "Change your story, change your life." What does that mean? It means that much of the way we think, see, and operate as individuals is based off a story. The question then becomes, "Is the story that I'm telling myself true?" If you answer yes, then prove it! With facts... not perception, half-truths, or lies. Build compassionate and honest dialogue. Dig deeper into what your real motivations are, and have humility to know you can learn more. Self-awareness combined with action opens the door to real change.