Modern Love with Manj Bahra

Ep 2. Why Mixed Signals Drive Us Crazy (and How to Handle Them!)


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In this episode, I'm going deep into the psychology behind why mixed signals drive us crazy, the mistakes you MUST avoid, and a useful framework for dealing with them effectively! This episode is essential for anyone struggling with hot and cold behaviour or push-pull tactics.


00:33 Diving into Mixed Signals in Dating

04:51 Understanding Cognitive Dissonance

07:04 Attachment Styles and Mixed Signals

08:05 The Dopamine Effect of Mixed Signals

09:23 Strategies to Resolve Cognitive Dissonance

10:13 The Dating Dissonance Trap

12:15 Understanding Perception vs. Reality

13:13 The Ben Franklin Effect

13:46 Endless Rumination

14:39 Focusing on What You Can Control

15:00 The Power of Open Communication

16:14 Challenging Assumptions and Binary Thinking

17:39 Taking Logical and Well-Informed Steps

19:11 Anna's Journey to Clarity

21:55 Recap and Final Thoughts


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