In this conversation with Irene van der Zande, founder of Kidpower International, we explore how to set and respect workplace boundaries with confidence and kindness.

The Boundary Bridge Technique

Skilled boundary-setters always start with something positive—what Irene calls a "boundary bridge":

• Connect first with something positive
• Use 'and' not, 'but'—bridges don't cut off communication
• Be specific and focus on behavior, not character
• Keep it simple and don't over-explain

Real Scenarios We Practiced

We role-played common workplace situations, from supervisors addressing chatty employees to colleagues setting limits on interruptions. The key is being calm, confident, and prepared for initial pushback while staying focused on the specific behavior that needs to change.

Key Takeaways for Leaders

• Be prepared for negative reactions; persistence is normal
• When someone sets a boundary with you, say, "Thank you for telling me"
• Boundaries create healthy relationships, not barriers
• Remember: it's better if someone tells you directly than talks to everyone else

Resources Mentioned:

1. Kidpower's Workplace Boundaries Personal Practice Guide Download here.
2. For more on Workplace Boundaries Personal Practice, check out this article on Kidpower's website.
3. Free resources at kidpower.org/learnmore

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