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There’s a certain identity many high-achieving women know well — the one who has it handled. The one who figures it out, keeps the plates spinning, and carries the weight without asking for help.

My guest today calls it the “I’ve got it” girl.

For most of her life, Jackie Cote built her identity around independence, control, and survival. From a young age, she learned to rely on herself and take care of whatever needed to be done.

And for years, that approach worked.

Until life handed her a season where control simply wasn’t an option.

In this episode, Jackie shares the story of the year everything changed — when caregiving for her father with dementia and supporting her stepmom through serious health challenges forced her to confront the limits of control and learn a completely new way of being.

What she discovered on the other side wasn’t weakness.

It was surrender, trust, and a kind of freedom she hadn’t experienced before.

In this conversation, we explore:

• The identity trap of the “I’ve got it” girl
 • Why control often feels like safety
 • The moment control stops working
 • How surrender can create deeper freedom
 • What it looks like to receive support after a lifetime of doing it all yourself

If you’ve ever felt like everything rests on your shoulders… this conversation will resonate deeply.

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