Who decides the standards of dating and why do they keep changing?

It could all be so simple but we keep making it harder by lying or pretending to be someone we are not. Well I don’t mean to say “we” as if I am included. The only time I could remember pretending was being a wife. Well someone else wife… Then again I wouldn’t say pretend but acquiesced.

I felt trapped. There wasn’t a previous discussions of what would be expected to be his wife and if he had told me what to expect I would not have entered. That is the essence of dating. Getting out all of those expectations, well at least most.

It was interpreted that I enjoyed cleaning because I was constantly cleaning and not that I was constantly cleaning because everyone was so messy all the time. Laughable still so many years later. I do not have a servant’s heart, I have a helper’s heart. Meaning I am more apt to want to help, not serve you.

I wish dating could be easier for the youth but people have too many podcasts delivering caustic opinions. Opinions into a vacuum. Until next time.

Here's a poem I wrote. It's not in my latest book, but it is how I have been feeling lately.

This last one has been trying to leave me

It's been hard letting go

The person I let know me

Is the one I have to let go

So another one can find me

Its been hard not because of comfort

Because I really cared

Because I couldn't doubt

The feelings were really there

Mookie 💜

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