In this ongoing series I am talking about the inner critic that tells us not to ask for help. This critic insists we should handle everything on our own and never seek help - after all this is how we have 'always' done it. Sometimes this critic manifests as a feeling of guilt rather than an inner dialog. It might even show up as fear - for example in spending money on a coach to advance your career. However it shows up for you, this episode is here to help you navigate these barriers of getting support - which you deserve and have every right to receive. It's not something you need to earn. Period.

Episode Highlights:

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[00:00:41]

"I'm talking about the inner critic that tells us not to ask for help, the inner critic that tells you to just pick yourself up by the bootstraps, do the things, move forward. Don't be a burden on anybody else. Don't put the resources against what you're trying to accomplish. Just get it done all by yourself."

[00:09:58]

"The other truth that our inner critic doesn't tell us is that the people that care about you love opportunities to help and support you. They may not be coming up to you and saying, hey, how can I support you? What help do you need? No, but when you tell them, hey, I could really use this support, or I could use your help with this technology problem that I have. They will be really happy to be able to be of service because everybody wants to feel needed."

[00:17:57]

"We're conditioned to think that it's weakness to reach out and ask somebody for support or to ask for more resources. We think it's supposed to be a struggle because that's just what it is. It goes back to that saying, no pain, no gain. What if it doesn't have to be that way? What if that's a damn lie? Because it is."

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