Many men are drawn to the warrior archetype without realizing we’re actually living out its less mature version — the “hero.”

When the hero runs the show, our relationships quietly turn into a stage where we’re seeking recognition for effort, sacrifice, or being “good.” We’re not trying to manipulate; we’re trying to be seen. But that heroic lens often leaves us feeling unappreciated, resentful, and confused when our partner doesn’t respond the way we hoped.

This conversation is about the evolution from proving yourself to serving something larger than yourself — a shift most of us deeply want but rarely know how to practice in real time, especially in conflict.

If you’ve ever wondered why your “good deeds” don’t seem to land… or why conflict feels unfair when you know you’re trying so hard… this episode will name the pattern and point you toward a different way of showing up.

Mentioned in This Episode

• Reclaiming the Gentle Man — 21-Day Program ON SALE through December 31.If you want 2026 to be the year your conflicts stop spiraling, make your resolution to transform defensiveness and reclaim your presence now — not in January.→ ⁠https://www.davelishansky.com/reclaiming-the-gentle-man-cart⁠

• Lorin Krenn Podcast Episode on Masculine Archetypes
  https://player.captivate.fm/episode/c388ed59-3b44-47c0-af83-f43fc2656e84

• Book: King, Warrior, Magician, Lover by Robert Moore & Douglas Gillette
  https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/91781.King_Warrior_Magician_Lover

• Connect with Dave on Instagram — @dave_lishansky
  DMs are open if you want to go deeper into this work.

If you’re ready for personalized support — individually or as a couple — reach out on Instagram @dave_lishansky or email [email protected] to learn more about 1:1 and 2:1 coaching

May the warrior within you awaken.