In this episode of Her Subconscious Blueprint, I’m breaking down why goal-setting feels so hard — and why it’s not a discipline problem, it’s a nervous system problem.

We talk about how goals rooted in pressure, fear, or comparison put your body into survival mode, making consistency almost impossible. I share how to set goals that your nervous system actually feels safe moving toward, so change feels supportive instead of overwhelming.

This episode is about shifting from forcing yourself to change to building self-trust through small, aligned steps — and creating goals that feel like invitations, not demands.

00:00 Welcome to Her Subconscious Blueprint
00:27 Why traditional goal-setting doesn’t work
01:25 Safety and the nervous system
02:57 Building self-trust through small steps
06:59 Identity-based goals
08:51 Self-sabotage through a nervous system lens
10:50 Flexible, honest goal-setting
11:19 Final thoughts and encouragement

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