In this episode, I sit down with Andrea Kaplan, founder of Rewriting Sober, midlife mom of two, writer, and walking proof that it’s never “too late” to rewrite your story. At 48, Andrea hit one year sober, not from a dramatic rock bottom—but from the quiet, heavy hell of anxiety, shame, and soul-numbing routine.

We unpack the real transformation: moving from people-pleasing and control to clarity and confidence. Andrea shares how she survived early sobriety while parenting teens, traveling to Italy, going to Vegas (yeah, Vegas), and hosting milestone family events—all without pouring a drink.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why you don’t need a rock bottom to choose sobriety
• How people pleasing and control masked her internal chaos
• Letting go of the fantasy of “drinking like a normal person”
• The mental torture of moderation attempts
• Rewiring her relationship with fear, self-trust, and perfectionism
• What Italy, Vegas, and gelato taught her about sober joy
• The subtle but life-altering moment when she finally felt hope again

Andrea proves you can look like you’ve got it all together and still feel lost—and that healing is possible without hitting the floor. This one’s for the high-functioning women who are done trying to function their way through despair.

Connect with Andrea: https://www.instagram.com/rewritingsober/

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Explore Kate’s blog: https://thesobercurator.com/category/sober-lifestyle/youve-been-selected/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

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Gut Check: A Private Self-Inquiry Course