Many men struggle to answer a deceptively simple question: What do you want?

In this episode, we explore how so many of us were raised with the “energy of not” — taught who not to be, what not to want, and how to stay small, agreeable, and unoffending.

Focusing on what we don’t want — to happen, to feel, to incite — shapes our relationships, erodes our agency, and leaves our partners feeling frustrated.

This one is an invitation for you to see that not knowing what you want isn’t a failure — it’s the threshold to something deeper.

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May simply asking the question begin to open up your next chapter.