Rebuilding Self-Trust After Loss, Divorce, and Major Endings

In this episode of Her Subconscious Blueprint, I’m talking about what really happens after the ending. Not the logistics. Not the paperwork. The quiet part — when everything settles and you’re left alone with yourself. We unpack why self-doubt spikes after divorce or major loss and how it’s often your nervous system recalibrating after years of co-regulation. I break down the brain’s need to replay the past to reduce uncertainty, the attachment patterns that prioritize harmony over authenticity, and why self-trust is not the same thing as confidence or perfectionism. I also share practical ways to rebuild it through small, consistent actions — honoring rest, saying no without spiraling, changing your mind without shame, and repairing mistakes instead of punishing yourself — rooted in Albert Bandura’s work on self-efficacy. This is about learning to hold fear and intuition at the same time, grieving without self-abandonment, and returning to yourself with compassion, integrity, and boundaries.

00:00 Welcome and Mission
00:19 Why Self Trust Matters
01:29 The Post Breakup Spiral
02:05 Nervous System and Safety
03:25 My Reassurance Pattern
04:41 Soft Self Trust vs Perfection
05:45 Attachment Patterns After Endings
07:11 Fear vs Misalignment Signals
08:10 Rebuilding Trust in Micro Moments
08:51 Self Efficacy Through Action
10:13 Return to Yourself Gently
11:20 Closing Gratitude and Sendoff