Siblings often have unique bonds and connections that nobody else can understand. They grow up together, share childhood memories, and navigate through life side by side. Losing a sibling means losing not just a family member but also a confidante and lifelong companion. So why does it seem like we don't give enough weight to this kind of loss? Maybe it's time we start recognizing the immense pain that comes with losing a brother or sister and offer more support to those grieving such a significant loss. In today’s episode I talk to my daughter, Piper Bates, about her experience of grief following the loss of her younger brother, Matthew. This episode is filled with both tears and laughter as we delve into his diagnosis and how Piper's relationship with Matthew evolved as his health deteriorated. We also touch upon the concept of anticipatory grief, which refers to the grief that begins before a person dies. During our conversation, we opened up about the overwhelming guilt we experienced after Matthew's death. It was hard to admit, but that night, we both had the best night's sleep we'd had in weeks, and a strange sense of relief washed over us. However, what came next was a tidal wave of conflicting emotions that completely engulfed us. It's interesting how nobody really talks about that initial relief or the guilt that follows. Piper opens up about the range of emotions she went through, the sense of isolation she felt, and how it affected her overall mental well-being. She even shares her profound thoughts on the afterlife, admitting that despite considering herself a bad atheist, the belief in something greater brings her comfort. Sibling loss is a topic that is often overlooked, which is why I am incredibly proud of this episode. Not only does it help keep Matthew's memory alive, but I'm confident it will also provide solace to others who have experienced the loss of a sibling.

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Books discussed in this episode - Grief is the thing with feathers by Max Porter / With death in mind by Kathryn Mannix

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