If we don’t feel safe or like we can really trust our partner, we will have trouble letting them take the lead in the relationship. This can create a cascade of other problems in the overall dynamic. For example, one partner may overcompensate by becoming controlling while another may shut down and withdraw in anxiety. Essentially, the connection between you is compromised and your bond becomes unstable. As per the usual, Cailin and Mike go deep in their own past experiences around this and highlight how they naturally let one another lead in their relationship with one another. Plus, they eat and review some delicious lemon cookies.