Piggy Backing on my conversation with Joy last week because I'm basically obsessed with her. If you haven't listened yet please do. 

 

This whole concept of asking ourselves who's voice is this really? when we aren't speaking to ourself with kindness has led me down a spiral of how to work on not only having more compassionate self talk for ourselves but how to make it so our children don't have to do this work in their future. 

Or atleast less of this work. 

Trauma happens when we internalize the failures of our environment as personal failures. This is why we form negative self talk. We think things are our fault. 

So how do we prevent our kids from taking on the failures of their environment? 

1. We do our own internal work to release our own shame by finally placing the blame where it belongs and healing our nervous system.
2. We help our children understand their feelings and needs are valid and necessary and that sometimes life is really shitty but you are there for them to hole space for their whole humanity. 

Easy peasy right? Yeah i know, which is why I designed the "How to NOT F*ck Up Your Kids" Workbook. 

Click the link above to dowload for free. 

If you want to explore working together on release your own shame so you can be a more intentional parent, book a free Clarity Call to see if working together is the next right step. 

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