Exploring Queer Identity and Community with Kaia

In this episode of Late To the Party, host Alex reconnects with Kaia, a high school friend, and delves into her journey exploring her trans femme identity and queerness. Kaia discusses her evolving understanding of her sexuality and gender, her experiences in the Bay Area kink scene, the role of supportive friendships, and her upcoming journey into graduate school to become a therapist focused on queer communities. They also reflect on their shared high school experiences, the challenges of growing up in a small, less-diverse community, and finding affirmation and validation in more diverse, inclusive environments.

00:00 Welcome to Late To the Party

01:29 Kaia's Gay Awakening

03:13 Journey of Self-Discovery

09:30 Family Dynamics and Acceptance

11:26 Building a Queer Community

12:00 Embracing Trans Femme Identity

13:48 Diving into the Kink Scene

17:10 First Experience at Folsom Street Fair

20:34 Entering the Community

23:13 Respect and Affirmation in Play Spaces

24:01 Queer Identities in Play Parties

25:20 Friendships and Community Building

27:12 Reflecting on High School Experiences

30:22 Moving to San Francisco

36:28 Pursuing a Career in Therapy

41:06 Advice for Exploring Identity

43:06 Concluding Thoughts