“What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!” Dr. Kashey closely scrutinizes this phrase and observes how it affects people. The damaging, perfectionistic standards that this romanticized saying sets can lead to someone feeling guilt and shame. While challenging experiences do strengthen our resilience response, it wouldn’t make sense to invite pain, inconvenience, and other unnecessary challenges into our lives just for the sake of getting “stronger.” Self-efficacy is strengthened by choosing to confront challenges rather than being forced to face challenges. The end result of tough experiences or events in our lives should lead to healthy recovery and a good attitude, not an endless depleted state of mind and body.